Hi, this question is for men who is in love and committed with another girl but had a casual relationship with another girl whom he shared so much wonderful memories with but doesn't love her... then the relationship ended badly... I like to know if men do ever think so much about the affair after the break up? Are men affected by it? Do they feel any pain or guilt or regret? Do they even miss the girl? I want to understand how men go through the moving on journey after a breakup... why they can cut off easily and shut women out in their life despite the things that they have shared together and the happy memories... can they really just move on easily than women? Or is it just easier to move on if the man is not deeply in love with the woman? Please let me understand men's coping after a breakup...

I know I'm not a man but I have many male friends... I don't think they necessarily get over it so easy as they are just perceived to do such because they are less likely to wear their hearts on their sleeves... they don't really talk about it and if they do its to their "boys"... men cope and are hurt the same ways that we are... we just have different ways of showing it and dealing with it.

We all get hurt, and trust me, it ain't as easy as we make it look to move on. Just read a few threads posted by the guys if you don't believe me.

I think you're still hurting, and it seems like the guy(s) doesn't hurt like you do.