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Abb123x
Aug 2, 2010, 02:45 PM
My ex boyfriend split up with me nearly 3 months ago. But we're still good friends and see each other fairly regularly whilst out with friends/at parties.
The other day we were staying over at a friends house with a few other friends and ended up lying in the same bed(single bed)we ended up flirting and being really close and ended up kissing a few times and abit of fondling. He asked if I was okay and I said yeah I just know everythings going to go back to normal, like nothings going to change with me and him. (I still have very strong feelings for him and would like to get back with him). He then kept apoligising but still acting close to me. In the morning the same thing happened again (kissing and touching) and that's how it was left. So now I'm slightly confused.
Do you think he feels anything more than just friends towards me and if it meant something to him or whether it was just the fact he misses me and at times testosterone taking over?
A couple of weeks ago he also said that he still finds me really attractive and that he thinks he has a thing for me and this girl (who he has/had feelings for). What do you think he means by this?
Despite these things when we do see each other he doesn't really treat me differently to any other girls and I am usually the one to start conversation on msn etc

chrissy1919
Aug 9, 2010, 10:19 PM
Well I have been there myself. And for you to know his playing games with and this other girl. He's not sure what he wants. He just making sure you don't go out with a new guy. Cause if him and his new girlfriend does break up. He knows that you will take him back in a heart beat. You do love your ex with all your heart and soul. But he's not sure if he feels the same about. Next time the two of you are alone. Ask him, how do you really feel about me. And ask him if he loves you the same way as you love him. And if he don't look you in the eyes and tell you how he really feels about you. Then walk away. And find some one that will love you. He might just miss you. But be careful he might just say how he feels about you to make you happy. I know cause I have been there myself. k-keep it real. Good luck. My best wishes to you

Jake2008
Aug 10, 2010, 06:48 AM
You made the mistake of crossing the 'friendship' line, in allowing the kissing/fondling thing to happen in the first place.

If you want to be a friend with benefits, that's entirely up to you.

If you want him back in your life, tell him.

If he is not making any moves to start up the relationship again, then you need to decide what YOU want to do.

Trying to read his mind isn't going to work. Call your own shots, be woman enough to just talk to him straight up, and ask him if he sees a future again with you.

Keep it real as chrissy said. Don't play games, and make the best decisions for yourself without any question marks as to what significance your actions will have on him. i.e. sleeping with him gave him the impression you were interested.