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nonuaj
Aug 1, 2010, 04:26 AM
She says all these good things but I still wonder if it's too good to be true... she went to southern cross uni and now and then I found pictures of herself partying with people I think her friends at uni... she said she was a good girl in uni but judging from the photos it don't look like it... can I be right or not

redhed35
Aug 1, 2010, 05:37 AM
She may not have lived like a nun,but what really does it matter now.

She's with you,your in a relationship.

How is your past before you met?

If you can't let go or not trust what she says,then perhaps you should leave the relationship.

But... good luck in finding someone with no past or history.

Cat1864
Aug 1, 2010, 05:56 AM
You can have a good time and not be totally wild.

Frankly, if you can't trust her and don't believe her, then you shouldn't be in a relationship with her.

I notice that you say you wonder if it is 'too good to be true'. Usually when I hear people use that phrase, they are looking for problems. Are you?

martinizing2
Aug 1, 2010, 07:16 AM
You are risking a "too good to be true" on some photos you don't even know who she is with. Or maybe not with.

Did she show you the photos or were you invading her privacy when you found them?

A lot can be read in when you don't understand the entire situation.

Ask her about the photos.

talaniman
Aug 1, 2010, 07:27 AM
Unless the photos are "X" rated, don't worry about it, because its not your business anyway, so why dwell on it? What are you insecure, or paranoid because who gets with a female they don't trust in the first place?

Fr_Chuck
Aug 1, 2010, 07:38 AM
And to be honest and frank, if she sleep with several people during those years and gave them up and now wants to be with you, does it matter, who cares.

Have you ever been with other women ? It sounds like you are post college age and the percentage of people who had not already had sex is very very small and the older you get you may meet women who were married and divorced with tons of baggage.

She may merely be telling you what you expect to here ( since I bet she knows it is a issue for you) or she may be telling the truth.

In the aspect of life it does not matter what matters is how she is with you NOW.