Vicky
May 23, 2003, 12:01 PM
I've been with a truly wonderful man for almost 2 years. When I met him he had more baggage than some airports however I was aware of this. I wouldn't have hung on through all his issues had he not shown me the kind of love women dream of. He and I have a very adult relationship. We got each other through some difficult times and we never take one another for granted.
Anyway, since meeting me he moved toward finalizing his divorce with his ex. Before me they lived separately however somehow carried on as friend because it was convenient and they shared a child also of course they neither could afford a divorce. Once I came along things changed. I never forced my boyfriend to do a thing and always stayed out of his business. We never fought and within time he realized he was falling madly in love with me. I have patience like no one does and we finally made it to the divorce. I
I can be very insecure at times and I try not to repress what bothers me. However I am terrified since the divorce has happened. All this time I've adjusted to his lifes issues and he showed me his undying love now things will changing of course. He will be a free man from all the ties he and her have had together. He loves me very much and he showed me enough of that and I showed him just as much but god knows if he'll ever consider marriage again. He and his ex battled it out in the last months and now marriage may never happen for me. I don't want to invest years with someone and go nowhere with them. I could never raise marriage to him not for a long time anyway but now he'll think that's all I want. It's not fair to me.
Do I just wait until he brings it up someday because for a while now I can't even touch that subject. He's going to start to rearrange his life and will continue to need my support. I just want a mans view on my thoughts. Thank you.
Anyway, since meeting me he moved toward finalizing his divorce with his ex. Before me they lived separately however somehow carried on as friend because it was convenient and they shared a child also of course they neither could afford a divorce. Once I came along things changed. I never forced my boyfriend to do a thing and always stayed out of his business. We never fought and within time he realized he was falling madly in love with me. I have patience like no one does and we finally made it to the divorce. I
I can be very insecure at times and I try not to repress what bothers me. However I am terrified since the divorce has happened. All this time I've adjusted to his lifes issues and he showed me his undying love now things will changing of course. He will be a free man from all the ties he and her have had together. He loves me very much and he showed me enough of that and I showed him just as much but god knows if he'll ever consider marriage again. He and his ex battled it out in the last months and now marriage may never happen for me. I don't want to invest years with someone and go nowhere with them. I could never raise marriage to him not for a long time anyway but now he'll think that's all I want. It's not fair to me.
Do I just wait until he brings it up someday because for a while now I can't even touch that subject. He's going to start to rearrange his life and will continue to need my support. I just want a mans view on my thoughts. Thank you.