kristennicolee
Jul 28, 2010, 01:18 PM
So I just started dating this guy a couple days ago. As background info, I dated him once before a year ago (for four days, obviously didn't work out. He broke up with me because he "wasn't ready for a serious relationship yet", and ended up getting back with his most recent ex a week later). Anyway. He's already beginning to worry me.
I've been friends with him since I moved here a couple summers ago, and we used to talk a lot. So, don't think the reason for the problem I'm about to tell you about is because we're still getting to know each other. I don't know him well, but we're certainly not in the shy stage.
So, whenever we're texting, his answers are really short. Like, "yep" and "oh". And whenever we hang out, if we happen to get time alone, he goes right into making out with me. It's not that I don't enjoy it, I do. But I don't know if I want to go that fast, and it kind of makes me wonder if he only wants me for sex. Because for some reason, it's really hard to hold a conversation with him. And I'd rather talk, really, before getting into physical stuff.
Here's a specific example of something he did that bothered me today:
He told me yesterday when we were hanging out that he was playing a softball game for Kroger to help support some lady with cancer, and that the game started today at 4. We were texting for a little while this morning, and when he ignored me for 2 hours, I sent him another text, asking him why he didn't respond, and he said it was because he was playing the softball game. I said, I thought that didn't start until 4. Then he said, yeah, he's driving there. Sooo, why did he ignore me in those 2 hours and make up an excuse for it that made no sense? Does he not want to talk to me?
So yeah, I just want opinions on that, and the physical thing. They're both really bothering me, and they seem to add up to, "I only wanna talk if we're gonna do something physical." I hope you see where I'm getting that idea.
Thank you!
I've been friends with him since I moved here a couple summers ago, and we used to talk a lot. So, don't think the reason for the problem I'm about to tell you about is because we're still getting to know each other. I don't know him well, but we're certainly not in the shy stage.
So, whenever we're texting, his answers are really short. Like, "yep" and "oh". And whenever we hang out, if we happen to get time alone, he goes right into making out with me. It's not that I don't enjoy it, I do. But I don't know if I want to go that fast, and it kind of makes me wonder if he only wants me for sex. Because for some reason, it's really hard to hold a conversation with him. And I'd rather talk, really, before getting into physical stuff.
Here's a specific example of something he did that bothered me today:
He told me yesterday when we were hanging out that he was playing a softball game for Kroger to help support some lady with cancer, and that the game started today at 4. We were texting for a little while this morning, and when he ignored me for 2 hours, I sent him another text, asking him why he didn't respond, and he said it was because he was playing the softball game. I said, I thought that didn't start until 4. Then he said, yeah, he's driving there. Sooo, why did he ignore me in those 2 hours and make up an excuse for it that made no sense? Does he not want to talk to me?
So yeah, I just want opinions on that, and the physical thing. They're both really bothering me, and they seem to add up to, "I only wanna talk if we're gonna do something physical." I hope you see where I'm getting that idea.
Thank you!