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Mrsashleyg2009
Jul 26, 2010, 08:31 AM
Hi, I just found out my husband has been having an emotional affair for about a month with the girl he used to date. I was in his Yahoo account, something just told me to look... And there I found an email from her...
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Hey! This is michelle... I been thinking all day and this is something that I need to say for the sake of myself and so I don't get heartbroken again. I know u know how I feel about you. I can't help but still have strong feelings for you but I don't want to get hurt and I will always love you. You're the one who has my heart. But there is nothing I can do about where we both are in our lives. Its just to complicated. I never get to see, I only have certain times I can talk to you and when I can't talk to you and I hate it I can't stand it. I can't stand the fact that your not with me. I hate myself for running 7 years ago but there is nothing I can do about that now the only thing I can do is just accept that your married and about to a baby boy. I think we should just be friends and nothing else at all. I will always love you and I will always be here for you no matter what. I always want to stay in touch with you I don't want to lose that. You may think this is easy for me but its not... it hurts like hell and I can't stop crying I really don't want this but I have to do it.. I love you robert I just hope u still love me after u read this.
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So, after reading the message I was pretty devistated... I had no clue this had been going on. He has been very secretive, and will not let me get anywhere near his phone.. He works out of town a lot, so I barely see him and when I do, he's a jerk to me and acts like I'm a huge inconvience.. =( Every time he is out of town, I'll get to talk to him maybe a minute or two and he says he's going to bed... =( I'll pulled his called log and he talks to her more than he does me. There were several instances where he would talk to me one minute or two and hang and talk to her 10!! It killed me! I'm 6mons pregnant and finding this out so of coarse I'm very distraught! I contacted her and she said that they weren't talking on the phone, he told me otherwise.. So she already lied to me.. and I have proof that they've been talking since 7/2. I asked him if there was any physical contact and he said no, that it wasn't like that.. I'm considering a divorce, and he said he's willing to do what ever. I mentioned marriage counseling and he said he would go, but he didn't understand why we needed to... Truth is I'm not sure I want to work it out and I need advise.. :(

donf
Jul 26, 2010, 08:41 AM
Wow! Six months pregnant and you get slammed in the face with infidelity.

My prayers go out to you.

You have every right to smack this clown over the head with a sledge hammer just to get his attention. (Metaphorically speaking)

I would start the conversation by asking him if he ever wants to see your child! Ask him why, he needs to be treating his family this way.

Kitkat22
Jul 26, 2010, 10:25 AM
Wow! Six months pregnant and you get slammed in the face with infidelity.

My prayers go out to you.

You have every right to smack this clown over the head with a sledge hammer just to get his attention. (Metaphorically speaking)

I would start the conversation by asking him if he ever wants to see your child! Ask him why, he needs to be treating his family this way.



What a shock! I agree with Donf. He has the gall to converse with an old girlfriend and you are pregnant with his child. A Stand up guy:mad: that was sarcasm.

Don't do anything till the baby is born. Don't get yourself so upset ,you may risk that child or yourself. What a mess. I'd love to smack him, but since I can't.. I'll just pray for him and for you and the little one. :)

Mrsashleyg2009
Jul 26, 2010, 02:46 PM
Yeah about 4 hours after I posted this he admitted to having a physical affair with her, so I'm leaving him... Its biblical grounds for divorce, this type of behavior before we even hit the two year mark... its time for me to realize he isn't worth the effort..

Kitkat22
Jul 26, 2010, 02:55 PM
Yeah about 4 hours after I posted this he admitted to having a physical affair with her, so I'm leaving him... Its biblical grounds for divorce, this type of behavior before we even hit the two year mark... its time for me to realize he isn't worth the effort..



Bless you and I hope you know I admire your strength. God be with you
And the little one.