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centrefresh
Jul 26, 2010, 03:18 AM
Hi,
I am in a relationship from last 8 months it's a long distance relationship. But from June onwards we both are facing some problem . I was depressed due to his nature and his behaviour I have done something with me and after this my friend called him up . Due to this he was so much pissed off .and now he is saying that he need a space he don't want to leave me, he just need a space to deal with this situation.he is also busy in his business he wants to set up his business also. I don't know what to do how to deal with this. How to give him space. I don't want to loose him . I really want this relationship works.

MissKnowitall
Jul 26, 2010, 08:20 AM
In a long distance relationship, you have to downplay problems because they are made larger by the distance factor. Meaning, if you are down or sad, telling him won't help. It makes them anxious. I learned this the hard way. Doesn't mean it is fair but that is what distance does to people. All you can do is give him LOTS of space. He may contact you in a while or not.. if not you can reach out to him but not for a long while of no contact. That is the ONLY way.

In long distance sitatuations, you just don't know what is going on regarding their behavior so making an issue of anything they do is a waste of energy.

Food for thought :)

centrefresh
Jul 26, 2010, 08:22 AM
Thanks a lot buddy

redrumx3
Jul 26, 2010, 08:48 AM
All you can do is give him space, when someone tells you what they need it is usually a good idea to listen to it ;-)

centrefresh
Jul 26, 2010, 08:50 AM
Thank u so much for helping me

cutebutton
Jun 5, 2011, 11:20 AM
Discuss more with him what is the 'space' about! Sweetheart if he really love you any at all he will take the time to deal with his situation and you will still be around. Give him the space! All the best with ypur relationship!