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LimitsofControl
Jul 25, 2010, 10:51 AM
So I dated what I though my greatest love, my best female friend of 6years, but we are not together anymore.We were long distance so I moved to be closer to her but things didn't work out actually she started to distance herself due to her family illinesses and hardtimes.She broke up with me because I didn't get a higher paying job after college nor did I get a car in which she had both.After about a year I have improved my job,I have tried taking her out to dinner,games,trips,listening to her problems to get her back. After about 8months I have tried to see if she like to get together or work things out but she doesn't answer at all and now its been a month since we have talked, should I continue to move on or believe she'll come back around,I have a lot of others interested in me but its hard to shake my emotions?

redhed35
Jul 25, 2010, 10:56 AM
Time to move on.

Start no contact and get busy improving your own life,put the same amount of effort into you,as you did into getting your ex back.

You tried,she did not want you,time to pick yourself up.

As a suggestion there are stickies in the relationship forum that may interest you.

positiveparent
Jul 25, 2010, 11:36 AM
The best thing you can do in view of what your post says is to move on with your life, start dating others,keep yourself busy.

You need to accept that what you had with this girl is over, your time with her has run out.

You'll find a new love in time, for now though concentrate on you, and living your life for you.

Good Luck.

MissKnowitall
Jul 26, 2010, 08:34 AM
If other people are interested in you, that (if anything) will be your best bet to get her back. When she sees that you've moved on and are enjoying life AND seeing someone else, she will take notice.

I know it seems like a bit of a game but love is a game.

Besides you need to move on, as others said. Except to say that you seem to have a long history with this gal and those feelings on either side don't disappear overnight.