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Solitude
Dec 17, 2006, 02:06 PM
On Thursday night, my teenager daughter age 13.5 asked me if she can go to downtown shopping with her friends after school. I told her no.

On Friday afternoon, I waited at the bus stop where I would normally pick her up. She called and said that she had a hard time open her locker and missed her school bus. I told her to wait at her school library and I would be on my way to pick her up.

About 15 minutes later, she called and stated that she was going to take the subway home. She did not have her cell phone and was using her friend. I tried to call back but it went to straight voice mail. I waited at the subway station for her.

That night, I tried to have a conservation with her that I did not like the fact that she missed her school bus on the date that I told her that she can't go downtown with her friends. She told me that I do not believe her when she is telling the truth. I did not want to get into a big fight with her again since lately, all we do is fighting with each other about her cell phone, computer and tv's privileges. Last Sunday night, she was caught talking to a boy at 11:30pm where her bedtime is 10pm. She abused her cell phone and lost the privileges. She constantly on myspace, we took her computer away where she is using the computer in the dinning room area where my husband and I can monitor her.

Any advice how I should have handle the situation?

tinanation
Dec 17, 2006, 03:26 PM
Sounds like you're doing the right things. You may consider picking her up from school everyday for a week or two, just to see what she is doing after school; of course if your able to.

ScottGem
Dec 17, 2006, 04:48 PM
You've already gotten a lot of advice for dealing with your daughter. This specific situation is jiust a continuation of the problems you have, not a separate issue. You have major problems with this girl and I think the only way things will be resolved is with family counseling.

P.S. We know you need help since you are posting a question. The purpose of the subject line is to let us know WHAT you need help with.

talaniman
Dec 17, 2006, 07:08 PM
Remembering your other posts, I think family counseling is also a very good idea. There seems to be a lot of issues to be resolved.