Hi, I was in a relationship with my boyfriend for five months. He took me to introduce his family and we were in serious relationship. Five weeks ago, I checked his cell phone and saw he texted his ex girlfriend and another girl such as "miss you" , etc.. I was pretty mad and told him that I was done with him. He accused me that I have trust issues and he cannot be in a relationship which is not trustworthy.. Since I love him so much that I told him I will work on my trust and got back together. After one week, I put our picture in Facebook. He was pretty mad and he is very concerned about his privacy. He said he should take a break from this relationship and we should work on our issues. He said he is not giving up and still loves me. Since then, he called me once a week to check on me. Now, he is on a business trip and will be back a few days. I know he will come to see me when he comes back.. I think I need to talk to him to continue or break up. What should I do? Please advise.

How long was he broken up with his ex before he dated you? This sounds like a rebound situation almost.

At any rate, you do have trust issues. You cannot just go through someone's phone because you want, that is absurd. I don't think he is ready to fully commit to anything, and you sound like someone that wants a full commitment. You also sound like you are in a rush. Five months is a pretty short time to develop "love." It happens, but not very often. I think you both have different agendas right now.

Too much, too fast, crash and burn. - Tal

Talaniman Rule- Stay away from any one that has an ex involved in their lives.

Talaniman Rule-When they ask for a break, give it to them and do your own thing.

Talaniman Rule- When you break up, have the courtesy to revoke their relationship privileges.

From what I see he broke up without explaining about the ex, but instead blamed you snooping. He may be right about the snooping, but still is dishonest about the ex.

You have enough facts to make a decision about leaving him alone, and you don't need him around to work on your so called trust issues.

If he isn't ready to tell the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth, then talking is a complete waste of time.

By the way trust is earned, not given.

He broke up with his ex 2 years ago. But he had one girlfriend after his ex. His ex is engaged with another man and they still talked like this "miss you" "could not live without you".. today, He texted me that he is working on his issues.. and still love me. I love him so much too. I want to get back together so bad because it is so difficult to over him.. I live here alone and my family lives in another country.. How long should we take a break? Or what should I say if he comes back?

Be honest, do you want him back to have someone to relieve your aloneness, or are you afraid to be alone and have to build a life that you enjoy without him??

Be honest again, please, why did you feel you had to go through his phone, if you were so in love??

Well. I admit I am a loner but good looking :p.. Successful in my career. My friends live quite far from me.. Actually, someone( a guy from work) wants to go out with me now.. but I can't because I can't be over him yet. Or it is not right to do in this situation. I never ever went my ex bfs phone.. I went through his phone for the first time because I think he is hiding something from me... May be I don't trust him yet... I fall in love with him so fast and too much.

I broke up with him for good.