I am separated from my second husband (married 4years) due to kid problems, we want to reconcile at year end when kids two girls aged 18, 1 from each previous marriage, leave home at year end. We are married in comminity of property. Financial agreement: Husband pays house, I pay food,gardener, rates & taxes, cleaner, electricity, meat etc which calculates too much more than the payment of the house. I pay everything for my kids, school fees, busses, school clothing, stationary, everything. He pays his child schooling. My daughter wants to study next year, now my husband expects, that we must have a joint bank account and everything must be paid from there. Financially I cope, with renting and all my other obligations, he doesn't. With other words, now I will end up paying for his child studies, car etc and in the mean time she treats me like dirt, doesn't even greet me, how does he expect me to pay. I have never ever asked him a cent for my kids, but have paid allot towards his child. Why should I pay for his child?? Now it seems that he would rather go through with the divorse. According to him, it won't be me paying for his child BUT US, because we married in community of property. She's not my responsibality!! Is she??

Supporting his child is not your legal responsibility - if that is your question (and I think it is).

I am moving this to Family Law since it seems to be more of a law based question than relationship question at this time.

I would also like to point out that the op's location is listed as South Africa.