I'm 16 and my ex and I were together for a year and a half. Everything was fine in the beginning but girls would chase him and eventually he cheated on me. After the one time I forgave him and took him back. We broke up 13 times and got back together except for this time when he cheated again. It has been 6 months since we broke up and I still love him, but he thinks that just like everyother time imma just take him back. We still talk, but when I don't text him or call him or answer his calls he gets pissed. The last time I talked to him he said that HE WANTED A BABY! I am not going to risk any of it. I didn't have sex with him at all and I'm glad I didn't. Sometimes he is verbally abusive and it scares me, but I love him. He gets jealous of anybody around me. I would like to move on, but he is always around and in every piece of my business. WHAT SHOULD I DO & IS THIS ALL MY FAULT? I'm only 16 :(

No its not all your fault,you did not know what to do or how to handle him,but I'm going to tell you how as will other posters,its up to you what you do with the advice.

1. go no contact,totally no contact,that includes text,phone,Facebook.

2. tell your parents he won't leave you alone.

3. change your number.

4. tell your friends its over between you and you don't want to here any news of him.

5. don't go to places where you know he will be .(just to see if this is working,it will only draw him on you again)

6.go with your parents t othe police if he continues to haress you.

It may take him a while to get the message but if you persist and keep to the above he WILL get bored and run out of steam,each time he calls you and you respond it only fuels him on more to keep contact,don't give him any fuel.

Wow the guy sounds like a lunatic, why do you want to be with him?

You have broken up almost once a month, he has cheated on you multiple times and continues to do so. Plus he tries to control who you can be around?
So its OK for him to have sex with other girls, but you can't even be around other people?

This guy has SERIOUS mental problems and you need to get out while you still can. You are already scared of his verbal abuse, he already emotionally abuses you, it won't be long until it moves to physical.

You should sit down with yourself, a close family member, or a professional and find out why you want to put yourself in this type of situation.

Best of luck, cut this guy from your life, there are much better guys out there.

A baby at 16? He's definitely crazy. I'm glad you realize it. He sounds like bad news. I'd suggest you stop talking to him, also. Concentrate on school, activities, and your friends and family. I know you think you love him, but you are going to find better matches, and look back at this and wonder what you were doing with him. You don't deserve to be cheated on, yelled at, or spied on or stalked.

Please get as far away from this boy as possible right now, You must tell your Parents, or teachers or both about what he is doing to you, or as drastic as it may seem call the police, and tell them.

He is a danger to you, or for you to be around. You could be a mere nano second away from being beaten, or even raped, saying he wants a baby at 16 sounded alarm bells for me, he could sexually molest you.

Please OP if you never do anything sensible again go straight now and tell someone an adult someone in authority, Please I cannot stress this to you enough.

Please do this now, and then ignore all and any attempts he makes at trying to contact you whether via phone text email your friends, any attempts ignore.

Also always ensure you're with another person, if out, always, don't be vulnerable and be alone when he could just turn up.

You really must tell your parents about this.

I agree that he isn't mentally stable and you are in a dangerous situation.

Someone who acts like he does has the potential of causing you both physical and mental harm. I think you should talk to the police about the verbal abuse and him always being around. That is stalking. Get a protective order. That will keep him away from you. But usually you have to file a police report in order to do this.

You have displayed very good judgement in not having sex. The chances of STD's and pregnancy are too much for a 16 yr old to deal with if it happened.

You really need to listen to what all the posters are telling you about staying away from him and getting parents or counselors involved for your safety.

Be cautious and keep us informed

SpicyMango
In case you're worried and thinking people will think its all your fault, its not your fault at all none of this is your fault, and no one is going to think it is.

You need to let your parents know about his boy so that they can help protect you, no one will get on at you or say its your fault, but you must let them know if you don't you will be very vulnerable and this boy could so easily do harm to you.

Im not being over dramatic in telling you this I want you to get protection, now.

If you don't do this then you are going to be in serious danger every time you are alone with this boy, he has problems and he needs help, but so do you, your life and body are in danger.

As soon as you tell your parents or teachers about what's been happening to you and how this boy won't let you move on with your life they can and will do everything in their power to help you, no ones going to get mad at you or blame you, I assure you of this, if you don't tell them you will be taking a huge risk.

You're only 16 you should be enjoying your life and going out on dates having fun and just being yourself, this boys stopping you from doing this, and he's making your life a misery, I know you think you love him, but if you love someone then you don't stop them doing the things they want to do, which he is doing, which means he doesn't love you, and he never will, but he could so easily harm you.

I hope you will do as been suggested here. You need protection let your parents do this for you, they love you and want to always know you're safe, so by you letting them know about this, they can do their job properly. Which is to keep you safe.

Please let us know what you do about this, and if you've any more problems or things that you are worried about come back and ask us for help anytime we are always here for you.

Im not telling you what to do, I am just wanting you to stay safe.
He is a Bully...

I know you're a sensible girl..

If you don't know how to tell your parents you could show them this page and these posts here, they'll understand and won't blame you, I Promise you they Won't..

It makes me angry when I read about guys like him.

Get away is the first thing I'm going to tell you. Stay away!

You seem to have a good grip on the aspects of having a child.

If you did have a child with him, it would grow up hearing his ranting and raving. That's a fact.

He hasn't hit you? He will and I'm telling you as one who knows, please get as far away as you can.

You say you love him? You think if you love him enough he'll change? He won't. He'll use that love against you.


He cheats? Thank goodness you haven't slept with him. He hasn't
Taken that from you.

He wants a baby!! That is the most asinine thing I have ever heard!

Don't be his doormat! He wants a baby so he'll have a hold on you.
He will be mean and cruel to a child just as he is to you.

He cheats and will probably contact an std. Please get away and don't contact him.

If you don't the future holds nothing but sorrow and tears for you. You cannot "fix him" so don't try.

Please take the advice here that you've been given. Leave him alone.

13 times?

He thinks that you are his property. Let him know that you belong to no one, and that you deserve to be treated better.

Tell your father, brother, uncle, someone who will set him straight. This guy is an explosion waiting to happen.

He "wants a kid"? HE's a kid for crying out loud!

Stay safe.

How old is this boy ?

How old is this boy ?

16 by all accounts, mind you that could be weeks.

Tell him to get lost. He is a loser and if he doesn't stop tell your Dad.

16 by all accounts, mind you that could be weeks.

Not sure where your getting that from. The OP claims to be 16 but I didn't see the boyfriends age listed anywhere. It could be he's much older and playing games. Being a "player" (aka IDIOT).

How old is the boyfriend?

How old is the boyfriend?

Who's on first

Who's on first

No who's on second. He stole a base.:D

Sorry I thought they were both 16.

Sorry I thought they were both 16.


PP.
He sounds as if he may be 12. Acts like a moron. Poor girl!:mad:

No who's on second. He stole a base.:D

What

What

I don't know. What? What:confused:

I don't know. What? What:confused:

Second base

Sorry I thought they were both 16.

Don't be sorry I was just asking because there have been a lot of young / old dating questions lately. So had to ask.

Second base

Oh that's a line from abbott& costello... you are way to young to remember the great "Who's on First". Sorry I got off subject. Sorry to op.

Doesn't look like the OP has been back yet, OP if you do come back please let us know how things are, we want to help you with this...

Hey guys,
Everything isn't back to normal but it has been getting better. (by the way he is 16 also). I talked to my cousin and my grandmother about it and they have made me feel better and that nothing was my fault. I haven't talked to him, and I haven't been getting any calls as of recently. Thank you for all the advice. I told him that I'm focused on school. Hopefully he is getting the message and he won't be calling anytime soon. The last time we talked he tried to make me believe that "you are the only one for me. I wanna marry you. I can't stand to see you with anyone else and nobody can treat you how i did. All I did was love you and you dont wanna love me back." PLAYERRRRR! I don't believe a word he says, its mostly him trying to get in my pants STILL. But although he was my first love and I still love him, I recognize that it is time that I move on.

Thanks again, (I'll Keep posting)

Good for you. You are a smart girl, and I'm glad you see he is a player. One thing we will all advise is that you don't talk to him at all. Don't respond to his calls, e-mails, etc. Your focus on school is exactly where it should be. Good luck.

Good for you. You are a smart girl, and I'm glad you see he is a player. One thing we will all advise is that you don't talk to him at all. Don't respond to his calls, e-mails, etc. Your focus on school is exactly where it should be. Good luck.



Right JLo got to spread the rep. The guy probably thinks he's another Johnny Depp:cool:

I agree with what everyone else has posted, I am just wondering though, why do you still love him? You have broken up 13 times, he scares you and he WANTS A BABY! You should be thinking about whether you are letting him mess you up like this. Definitely take the advice that is given to you and get away from him ASAP. Things could get a lot worse between you very quickly.

Sorry, didn't read the post you put on. Well done, sorry again =)

Right JLo gotta spread the rep. The guy probably thinks he's another Johnny Depp:cool:

When he is Johnny Drip.
You are doing the right thing. Concentrate on school and keeping away from him. No contact at all would be best.

Although I am focusing on school, I am afraid that what has happened will affect how I feel about other guys I let into my life later. I don't want to be afraid. So what do you advise I do when I get to this point? Or do you think that eventually I will let things go? And do you think that I should forgive him anytime(not soon)?

I would not even think about forgiving him unless 3 or 4 years from now you find that he has made a complete change, like becoming a priest or close to something like that.

After you meet some more well adjusted "normal " guys your age you most likely will lose any fear you have.
If not talk to a counselor or another professional. But I think you will be OK.

Although I am focusing on school, I am afraid that what has happened will affect how I feel about other guys I let into my life later. I don't want to be afraid. So what do you advise I do when I get to this point? Or do you think that eventually I will let things go? And do you think that I should forgive him anytime(not soon)?

I do think you will eventually let things go. Don't even think about him or worry about forgiving him. Take your time to get to know guys in the future before becoming too close. You are so young. You have lots of years and experiences in front of you before you are even ready to get serious with someone. Concentrate on school and developing yourself, having fun, making friends, etc.

I do think you will eventually let things go. Don't even think about him or worry about forgiving him. Take your time to get to know guys in the future before becoming too close. You are so young. You have lots of years and experiences in front of you before you are even ready to get serious with someone. Concentrate on school and developing yourself, having fun, making friends, etc.

I agree.. think of your education first and the other things will follow... Good Luck.

He has been trying to get my attention and I recently saw him at a party. I don't want to care but I do. And today it didn't help at all when my frinde told me that he was trying to get with her while he is still trying to talk to me and sugar me up. I always end up getting hurt. And I don't understand why I get hurt so much even though I don't want him around. Its love isn't it?

He has been trying to get my attention and I recently saw him at a party. I dont wanna care but I do. And today it didnt help at all when my frinde told me that he was trying to get with her while he is still trying to talk to me and sugar me up. I always end up getting hurt. And i dont understand why i get hurt so much even though i dont wnat him around. Its love isnt it?

Tell hime to leave you alone and if he keeps it up tell him you'll tell the girlfriend.:eek:

There is still a part of you that wants to believe him. He's not sincere. He's just saying whatever he thinks will convince you to give him another chance, but he's already shown he doesn't deserve that chance.

You get hurt because you are young, hopeful, and inexperienced. You will meet nicer guys and you'll eventually understand that he wasn't a good boyfriend. Read this thread over a couple of times to remind you of how you were feeling and all the advice you were given. You might even read some other threads to see what type of heartbreak a guy like this can cause. You were with him for a year and a half - that's a long time, especially at 16. It will take time not to hurt and to understand that he isn't right for you. Avoid him as much as possible.

No OP its not love its a kind of dependence, because he used to bully you and make you feel scared, he played with your emotions, and sad as it seems you began to like how he treated you, you mistook his bullying controlling ways as him showing he cared about you, and you now think thats love its not honestly, and youll realise that in time, for now give him a wide berth and if he gets a 1000 girlfriends, wish them luck and you sail off into the sunset smiling, cos you know what hes like and you got away. Good Luck honey and keep strong, you know youre worth more. Take Care.

It is not love. You need to stay away still'

He wants to regain the control he once had.

Do not let him. Keep ignoring him until he goes away

Don't let him pull you back. He's a player.