Please keep all questions regarding the same issue in the same thread.

Does having lots of money make a man more attractive to women.

Not talking about the obvious gold diggers!!

Women in general.

It would appear so, sadly. However I use that criteria to not socialize with women who value money above other qualities.

Does having lots of money make a man more attractive to women..Hello 4:

Sure.

excon

Aside from the obvious gold diggers, I think the ability to take care of oneself, as well as a future family, instills a sense of security to women. If you have a high paying job, it shows that you're ambitious, able, motivated to go get that high paying job and keep it.

I think it shows the same to men as well... I know a lot of guys who don't really care how much money the woman makes, but to me, I prefer a woman that has a relatively good job... she doesn't need to make $200k a year, but if she has a good job, it shows that she's intelligent, ambitious, and motivated.

Women what's your honest take on this.

(Not gold diggers, we know your take on this). I mean in terms of attraction and chosing a partner.

(Not gold diggers, we know your take on this). I mean in terms of attraction and chosing a partner.Hello again, 4:

You're missing the point.. MONEY is just another attribute that makes a person attractive, or not, as a future mate. From an evolutionary standpoint, women seek out men who can provide for them, and can protect them. Having money, stature, power and influence are very attractive attributes for the reasons I cited.

MOST women seek out those attributes - NOT just gold diggers.

excon

I'm going to go against the grain and say it's a lot more complicated than we're generally led to believe. I don't think women automatically find men with a lot of money more attractive at all.

Being financially stable and smart with money is important and it's attractive, but a man's ability to form a loving and mutually enjoyable and secure relationship is far more important to most women. In fact, if a man flaunts his wealth too much or uses it to manipulate a woman, or if he is stingy out of fear and resentment, a woman can quickly pick that up and become very wary of a man. Not only can it cause a woman to lose respect in him, but it can also make her feel insecure and unsatisfied, causing her to withdraw from the relationship.

If there was a choice between a man who has a lot of wealth but who can't give love and a man who had only a modest amount to live on but can make a woman feel loved and secure, most women would choose the latter.

I think this is intriguing and applies as much to men as it does to women:

'what motivates us is surprising'
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u6XAPnuFjJc

There are always exceptions, but...

Look at it this way:

Guy 1: Nice, friendly, smart, athletic, rich

Guy 2: Nice, friendly, smart, athletic, poor

Who would you choose if I replaced the word "guy" with "girl"?

I see being rich as an additional quality. The more good qualities you have, the better, but if you only have rich, but none of the other good factors, that won't go very far either.

It's not so much that they want fancy jewlerry and fancy etc. Money proves that the guy will be able to take care of the girl financially, as in paying for the essentials: food, shelter, transportation, clothes, etc.

Do you really think that they want a guy who can't afford to pay their rent?

The point I was making in my first response was I avoid the women who view wealth as the first attribute they look for. I'm not poor but I don't want to be with someone whose main attraction is my money.

Does having lots of money make a man more attractive to women..Hello again, ladies:

I don't disagree with your assessments, given the facts you present... However, I don't read those facts into the question, as presented. If you read it, as I did, there can only be one answer...

The question asks us to pick between two EQUALLY wonderful fellows, but one has a lot more money. If they're NOT equal in every other way, you guys are right on. But, if they WERE equal, I could hazard a pretty good guess as to which one you'd choose.

excon

Plus look at all the truly ugly men with money who have bombshells by their side.

Most of us have to settle for less anyway:)

Similar to last post but different:

If being financially stable and smart with money is important and it's an attractive trait for both a man and a women to have.

Is this enough to turn an average looking guy to a good looking guy ?

Since Physically Atrractive people generally go for equally physically attractive people.

Would this make the difference in the dating game ? Ie, would a Good Looking girl go for an average looking guy over a good looking guy because of this.

[excluding the obvious gold diggers]

I merged the threads because this is the same debate already going.

Do you have a specific reason for asking these questions (in other words are you needing ADVICE about a specific encounter) or are you just interested in a DISCUSSION of the topic?

I married a wealthy man however I am totally not interested in how much he's worth, I have also always had my own money not a vast amount but enough, as such I have never once asked my partner for anything, it's there if want it, I don't.

I married him for himself rich or poor, and I really am totally non materialistic and like it that way, yes it nice to have some of lifes luxuries, and for my children to have some advantages in schooling etc, but if it came to the choice of my partner and family or wealth I would choose my family and hubby over any amount of wealth anyday.

Money doesn't buy peace of mind or real happiness and love, it's a means to an end. But never let it take over your sense of self worth, that isn't measured in currency.

A lot of rich women actually prefer non wealthy men, or a bit of rough. I agree those who are hoping to get rich quick are the type who give women who marry wealthy men a bad name. Not everyone's a gold digger.

Plus a woman can be a gold digger but rich men aren't blind to them not by a long shot.. so the ones who do manage to hook a rich man know he was hooked because he allowed it..

People who have more by way of wealth will look better regardless because they will have quality clothing, the best designs, the finest, of almost anything is there for them to wear, along with jewellery, they will also be more appealing to some because they will also be cultured sophisticated, have class and breeding, that's how they will, can and do look more attractive, what they wear and how they carry it.

Unfortunately those who have little or limited finances to spend on their attire cannot afford the same quality clothing and accessories, but many can and do manage to work their own way out of the lower ranks into the higher, however no amount of money or wealth is able to buy class, that's bred into them, and the richest man on earth if he has no class won't stand out in the crowd.

Yes.

Hi, 4answers!

I think that it depends a lot on the situation and what each person has to bring into a relationship.

Water seeks it's own level. That's a basic law of physics. It's the same way with people, generally. Most of the time, people will be more likely to seek out others who are like themselves.

For me, money isn't a priority. A necessity, yes, but not a priority. Women know that about me. Hence, my having money or not isn't one of the factors that might make them attracted to me.

By the way, I have no problems finding and maintaining relationships of all sorts with women.

Thanks!

I would rather have a soul mate than a sugar mama, but what's wrong with a rich soul mate?

I think that it depends a lot on the situation and what each person has to bring into a relationship.

Yes, it's really difficult to generalise about this question. I guess it's partly what your intention is when you set out looking for someone. I imagine there are some women who deliberately set out to catch a wealthy man - although I'd argue they're in the minority, just as there are fewer wealthy men around. If you find love and he happens to be rich, that would have to be a bonus.

I fell for someone who is non-materialistic. Mostly due to circumstances, he doesn't own his own home, but even so, he just isn't interested in accumulating wealth or possessions and prefers to find the few things he needs second-hand (he has a PhD, is a teacher and well presented). If he could get the money together, he would rather take a year off to travel, and while he lives in a tiny non-descript two bedroom unit, he creates a lot of space around himself by getting out into the outdoors. I don't know that I chose him over wealthier men, since for me there was no choice. You fall in love with whoever you fall in love with. Still, there have been men around who are much better off financially than him and equally good looking who were interested in a relationship - yet it didn't make any difference to me and I couldn't just 'fall in love' with anyone else. I felt enriched by him in ways other men couldn't offer.

As it is, we didn't work out but we'll keep a friendship, since paradoxically, one of the problems in our relationship is the fact that he feels less adequate or out of step compared with other men and with what I have materially (which is not really that much), that put a strain on our relationship from the beginning. That wasn't the only reason, but it was fairly significant factor, I suppose.

Had to spread the rep oddboots, but you totally crack me up. I presume those boots you are wearing are major chick magnets? :D

If I were out on a date eating pizza with one topping, and sharing a coke with two straws while sitting a birdie doodoo picnic table, that would be just as sweet as a six course meal at the Ritz with all the trimmings.

Money is only a means to and end, and while the results may differ, the essence, and aura and presence of someone special, makes every bite the best you've ever tasted.

Welp I am a woman, since this is just a question based on opinions, I wouldn't consider them more attractive, its just I would think if he didn't have much, he wouldn't be able to do much... if your talking about poor in everything than he can't really fit her needs much, or provide a good future [for older women] with a family. I don't know, it would only depend on the ladies, because really if both guys were equal to me and one had more money, I would choose the one with more money. I am just one out of billions though.

I think you're honest, and I appreciate that. My mother used to say its just as easy to marry a rich man or a poor man.

Me, I married for love. We do okay, just celebrated 34 years of marriage yesterday.

I have told my single sis in law: "it is just as easy to marry a rich man as to marry a poor man." So why not?

Money won't buy happiness... but you can suffer in comfort.

It is prioritized and sorted differently by each individual. But it always put a plus in attributes. Big or little influence it is a plus.

In that light I say that it does.

No, I'm my opinion if the girl really likes you or loves you she won't care about your money she will only care about you being with her

I have told my single sis in law: "it is just as easy to marry a rich man as to marry a poor man." So why not?

Sorry stringer I have to disagree, its now big business setting up a person who wants to marry into money with dating sites/agencies that specialise in finding millionaire matches for Ladies as well as Men who openly declare they want to marry rich Men/Women.

Incidentally this type of site does a good job for their clients, however they rarely ever have a truly successful match. Many wealthy men have never had it so hard, nor have they had to hold on to their wallets and their trousers more now than at anytime, with so many females out to marry rich they have trouble sifting out the gold diggers from the genuine, sophisticated gold diggers are the new breed, they used to stick out like a sore thumb, or so Im told but not now. They've become much more subtle and their backgrounds are impeccible, invented to perfection, today's gold digger is very hard to spot, and often is as articulate sophisticated and even has finesse and much more class than those around in say the 50`s. They also openly admit they want rich husbands.

These women have eloquition classes, pay to be trained in many areas how be elegant and fit into a rich lifestyle the world of upper class english, they're really getting good at it.

I myself say good luck to them if they're prepared to go to such lengths in order to bag a rich husband then they have at least done something towards helping themselves in this aim, and paid thousands to dating agencies as well to get them on the ladder. There is however one area of society that is impossible to penetrate, the aristocracy or landed gentry/nobility, at least that's safe, plus its seeped in tradition and that's something no "gold digger" is yet able to impersonate.

A Gold Digger isn't just confined to the females its also quite rife in males too. It would seem so many people now want to marry into money. And they'll pay highly too to achieve that aim. Or maybe its always been this way, one thing that is on the way out though is the Sugar Mummy or Daddy, those seen with the typified doddery old man with a blonde bimbo on each arm, waiting patiently for him to pop his clogs. They'll soon be a thing of the past.

I say all credit to anyone who wants to improve themselves, its about time the wealth was shared out in a more equal manner.

Interesting post PP. I don't think that we are in disagreement however. Only in what it takes to accomplish the end. Not that I agree with the whole method as in your post (and I am not disagreeing) but I realize that it is out there.

There are those (as my lovely, intelligent, faithful and beautiful wife) who were born with a lot of class and worked to improve herself and I might add she improved me in the process....

My comment in my post simply meant that if one has the choice and love is involved... then I say go for it.

Stringer :)

Interesting post PP. I don't think that we are in disagreement however. Only in what it takes to accomplish the end. Not that I agree with the whole method as in your post (and I am not disagreeing) but I realize that it is out there.

There are those (as my lovely, intelligent, faithful and beautiful wife) who were born with a lot of class and worked to improve herself and I might add she improved me in the process....

My comment in my post simply meant that if one has the choice and love is involved....then I say go for it.

Stringer :)


It's about what you bring to the table - if you are stalking money you'd better make sure you offer something that money needs/wants. I don't know that money makes a man more attractive to me - I'm a female (maybe obviously, maybe not). I am not impressed by wealth or, I should say, a show of wealth.

If you are talking about (?) people improving themselves to attract money, don't see a problem. People improve themselves to find better employment and just about everything else.

I AM impressed by confidence, self assurance and those often come with money.

My late husband used to say that you dress trash up but you can't take it anywhere. I think trash shows through.

I am in total agreement Judy. First and foremost it is what is inside.

Stringer

Hello 4answers,

I'm sorry, I haven't read any of the other posts other than your question, but I can say that in my opinion, no, to me it doesn't make a man more attractive to have money...

I know this may sound a little dumb, but when I look at someone, I look at them. Not what they do for a living or what they have. I look at how special this person makes me feel.

I hope that helps answer your question.

These women have eloquition classes, pay to be trained in many areas how be elegant and fit into a rich lifestyle the world of upper class english, theyre really getting good at it.

Interesting choice of career :rolleyes: