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Rize
Jul 13, 2010, 04:14 PM
So I've been sort of Emo and down in the dumps lately. Idk I met this guy through my friend who is so sweet, a great friend and I just need someone like that right now. He's more of a good friend and it's just part of the happiness you get from being in a relationship and I'm liking it. Just I went on plenty of dates with this guy we haven't done anything at all just good friends getting to know each other we both like each other and I know he really likes me he's so nervous to mess up around me perfect gentlemen.

He's 20 his last girlfriend was his first and they were on and off and broke up early this year. What's frustrating to me is he's flirty and sweet but he's not all that love dovey sort of thing yet maybe cause were not officially together but you know I'm not sure where I stand. He hasn't asked me out yet and it's been 2 months. It's like were together but were not.

His girlfriend whom I've known because I've met her before seemed cool and I've known her before I ever really knew him. She's not very close to me were hardly friends, just acquaintances whom I've met from friends parties and stuff. Lately she has been being super nice out of the blue months later and keeps wanting to hang out. I said okay and she said how about Thursday? And I said I think so and she said all right I was was going to hang out with guy A and Guy B that day anyway. Guy A is the guy I'm dating I guess? My friends who got me and Guy A together says that's strange and so is everyone and we were talking about how it must be awkward for Guy A too and I asked him so we really hanging oh on Thursday? And he said yea why not? And seemed very chill.

I just don't understand why she wants to hang out with them and me. I thought it was just going to be me and her and other friends but she basically invites me and her ex and her ex's best friend. More than that, my best friend who got me and him together is not being too faced and saying I shouldn't go out with him because I can do better and her reasoning has nothing to do with the above, but apparently for shallow reasons. But he is such a perfect gentleman and she agrees and says he's great but she is I don't know I feel like she's jealous cause she suddenly turned sides cause she's in a rut with her love life. I just hate how she's not being supportive and a lot of other stuff with my moms health and cousins are just getting to me. So much family drama and I just need to talk.

And my best friend I feel like I can't trust her cause she is, I admit a bit two faced I'm starting to notice and not just because of this.

And I don't know like where I stand with him. Am I his friend or what? And it's just very constrained cause he's not that lovey dovey so I don't know how to approach him because I would hate to start drama or seem moody and all right in the beginning even before were officially together. I feel like we should be progressing but were just like blah and it's starting to seem boring and awkward but I still like him. I'm more comfortable with him now but it's like let go further and with all this in my head and my friend saying no I just don't know how to go about with it. 

talaniman
Jul 13, 2010, 04:34 PM
You would be a lot better off handling your business without your friends all up in it.

Relationships and dating are about one on one, not you him, and your posse. They have the drama going for their own purposes, which you are not privy to.

Talk to this guy, and keep your business to yourself. I honestly would be cautious of you to, just because of the drama queens, and crap stirrers you have around you.

Their BS may make for an interesting conversation between the two of you, so share your fears with him.

If it gets around, you know he ain't the one.

Rize
Jul 13, 2010, 06:31 PM
U mean if my Conversation with him gets around? Yea most deff
I had to read this over but I get what you mean. Seriously this is such BS. I guess now I need to know how to approach him? And how to like progress our relationship

talaniman
Jul 13, 2010, 07:26 PM
Cut your friends out of your business, and talk to the guy. Casually ask him if they are freaking him out, as much as they are you.