Despite trying to keep things fresh through daily communication, my long-distance girlfriend has become quite drawn to a colleague closer to home. He seems hell-bent to exploit the situation, doting on her and sending a stream of flirtatious text messages that have only served to flatter her and fuel her curiosity. She has been honest with me about the attraction, and - while they have been in each other's company only twice (so far) - she further admits her "fear" of surrender, sexual and otherwise. There is no ring on her finger and I readily admit that no one can be "stolen away" without consent. But there is a basic and bothersome side to this: Her refusal to tell this guy, "Whoa!" dishonors our relationship and telegraphs (all too painfully) its probable dissolution. Overreaction?

High tailing out of that one.

You're probably right, but whatever will be will be and nothing you say or do is going to alter that. I agree she should have told him she was in a relationship, but she didn't, so sorry to say I think the writings on the wall.
Good Luck.

At least she is honest, now dump her. Whether she was just trying to make you jealous (head games), or just being honest (lack of character, respect), dump her, because either way her actions don't match her words, or commitment.

She already crossed the line. You are not wrong for feeling the way that you do. Cut contact. That's my response to most disrespectful situations. Remove yourself from the drama before you get hurt.

Its time to walk out of this before u get hurt further... I am not surprised if she already "surrender" when she told u she is about to...

Yeah... I only see pain in this future.