Hi,

My girlfriend and I have been together for 2 and a half years. We have a daughter of 13 months.
We fight a lot but get over it quickly.
I do a lot hellavu lot around the house. Cooking, cleaning, helping with baby etc. This is as well as juggling a career.
She has a home job. She sits around and watches Dvds the whole day. She rarely cleans. Cooks maybe twice a month.
I am a positive person and our child is beautiful. Our child was a choice and not an oops.
Now out of the blue she wants a 2 weeks break. No fooling around. Just a 2 weeks break to get her head clear and see if she can find the person she was.
Now, the more I read about it, the break is a bad idea.
My question, what should I do?

Your either working together on the problem or your apart and NOT together.

She can find yourself quite well while taking care of the house/child and other responsibilities,she can check out jobs and courses hobbies and interests,she can easily see a councillor if she needs one while in a relationship,what she can't do is go out on the town and be single while she is in a relationship.

You don't have to leave your partner to find yourself,but you do have to leave if you want to be single.

Talk to her and suggest the ideas above and see what she has to say.

I would push for an answer,either your together and working it out or your apart... theres no middle ground,cause if she comes back without a clear plan of the next step together,who's to say she won't need to find herself again in another 2 months.

If she is planning on taking a two week vacation let her, you probably would benefit from it too, but if she is suggesting you leave, NO WAY!!

Stop being such a nice guy and find something else to do when you come home besides her chores. If she can't manage her time at home better, then that's tough, and you should tell her so.

Suggest maybe she should get a job, but if she can't figure out how to work with you and make a happy home tell her go find herself and you and your daughter will be just fine.

I think she is bored or has a problem with the drudgery of responsibility. I personally would have to ask what the freak she means by find herself, since she seems to have all the time in the world to do so since you do everything else. Maybe she ran out of DVD's, but what ever her issue is, talk about it.

She is sorely mistaken you will maintain a home and live up to your responsibilities while she parties all the time, NO WAY!!

Maybe that's the problem, you have not made your expectations clear enough, and have put up with her lazy arse far to long.

You are the man of the house, act like it. If her behavior is bad, and unreasonable, tell her.

How old are the two of you?
You say you two fight a lot, maybe she is depressed, maybe she is unhappy, maybe she does need a break.
As for all you do, does she make you do it? No offense but to don't play the knight and then want to get a pat on the back for it. If you don't want to do it all, don't!
You two need to sit down and have a talk about what is going on in the relationship. There are obvious problems. Making her stay is not going to solve them because you still have not cleared up what the real problem is.
I suggest you two do some couple counseling, have her get some.

Just curious, if she's watching DVDs all day who attends to your daughters needs?

Plus if she is wanting a break who will care for the child whilst she goes off to find herself?

Sorry but she's got a child and she`s partially responsible for the child's care and attention needed in looking after her.

Being a Mother should be her number one priority.

Maybe she's got post natal depression.

Ask her why she thinks she can just up and go off for two weeks, and who is to care for the child whilst she's off trying to find herself, I would have thought it easy to find herself, just take a look at her child. JMO

Don't you be the one to go, stay put...