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evelyn2
Jul 11, 2010, 09:16 AM
My name is evelyn I been married for two years and since we been together we may have had sex 20 times that's all... and I was the one initiating at least 80% of the time no t anly that but NEVER HAD A HAPPY ENDING NEVER for him for for me
He looks at porn,masturbates when I am not around but when I try to seduce him, be pl,ayful he ignores me or simply is tired, no interested but when I get mad and can't help but be frustrated I tell him then two days later I will see him keesing me, touching , and whilling to try to have sex but again in the middel of everuthing he doesn't talk, moan, or lets me know he is enjoying and then he just stops... never works
What can I do why is this happening, I everything possible

ROBERT3181
Jul 12, 2010, 02:51 PM
Maybe you need look at the porn with him.. if that don't help then maybe you need to find someone else..

JudyKayTee
Jul 12, 2010, 03:12 PM
Have you asked him? He's your husband. Talk to him.

positiveparent
Jul 12, 2010, 06:48 PM
You could try dressing in sexy lingerie, or perhaps doing a little strip for him, or maybe run a bath, with bubbles, get in it with him, afterwards, you could dress up in something risqué, such as a maids outfit, men love it when they're partners dress up, you could improvise on something you already have and add a little apron, and stockings will almost always do the trick, be sexy not slutty.

I have several outfits in my wardrobe, and bring one out once in a while and they always get the desired results, Yes even on a tired man.

If you don't feel like dressing up in sexy attire, then just put on some nice dress comb your hair and apply a little perfume behind your ears, when he comes home be nice to him let him eat and have a little time to unwind, then dim the lights turn off the TV, that's a romance killer, and then do a little lap dance or sexy strip, use your imagination, and Im sure he will soon be chomping at the bit. Put love notes in his lunch box, send him horny texts. Make him feel sexy.

A few things NOT to do.
Don't nag him about it,
Don't Withhold on him if he does get into the mood, by refusing him, as a way to get back at him, that will kill his ardour faster than anything.
Don't make him feel bad about it, perhaps he's just a man with a low libido.
Don't use sex as a punishment or a reward, sex should be given lovingly and willingly, not because either of you feel its your duty.
Don't expect an instant erection or a few quick strokes and him to be up and at them.

Be dressed in something nice when he gets home men find it hard to get turned on by women in leggings and a sweat top, but something revealing, or low cut, and a skirt or dress should get him interested.
Treat his manhood with respect and tenderness.
Seduce him, learn how to turn him on, by being loving seductive, sexy sultry.

troublemakerman
Jul 13, 2010, 04:50 PM
I think you guys should go to a sex doctor. You want him to get excited over you, what you have, not a porno looking you. Would you start wearing masks also. Dress in costumes all the time, that’s crazy. Suppose that doesn’t work.

giderdone
Jul 17, 2010, 08:51 PM
Generally speaking, he's in hyper fantasy mode. The up side, it's easy to jump in and role play with him. The down side, he'll become desensatized and burn out if there is no participation from you. There is a lot crazy porn out there and getting hooked is easy.