I'm having doubts about going back to live with my boyfriend. We've been together for 6 yrs and have a 12 month baby together. Lately we've been arguing over stupid things. If things don't go his way he thinks I'm selfish. He also curses at me and yells at me in front of our baby. I left him to stay with my parents and he left a message on my parents answering machine saying that he has been cheating on me. Later on he tells me he just says that because he was mad. He thinks I'm cheating since I've been away, but I haven't been. I need some advice about what to do.

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mia, hi, if I can ask: "How old are you two?" Sounds like he is very immature. And how can he think you are going out with someone else when he says so himself, even if he says he is "just saying that because he's mad"? Besides, after 6 years, if he is still so immature and still does not respect you enough to even trust you, I mean c-mon, he has no right to want you back. The only way to break his cycle of whining is if he goes to your parents' house where you are staying and talk it out with you & your parents.

Otherwise, the situation will get worse. If he does not give and start trusting you, there is no reason for you to come back to him. Stay with your parents for a few days and see how he acts. In this case, he should be the 1st one who should apologize to you and your parents, not you. Make him beg. If he is not man enough to admit he's wrong, then leave him. That will teach him a lesson and force him to see what he's missed. ;) 8)

It seems that he is temperamental & impulsive. If you think you can't tolerate his behavior & attitude any longer, you should break it off with him, rather than suffering in silence.
If you still love him & want to give him another chance, you should give him an ultimatum. Tell him that you & he will have to go separate ways if he doesn't change his attitude.
It's better for you to sort things out with him sooner than later.

I totally agree with olka... its obvious that you two still love each other because if you didn't you wouldn't be asking for help and you can tell that he still loves you because he called you up to clarify why he said what he said, give the ultimatum!! GOOD LUCK

Ah wonderful hindsight.. it's always 20/20 and it always amazes me how anyone could give someone of their body.. especially a baby without the benefit of marriage.. ah lust... made for men! Good luck...