A number of years ago I answered my door and a stranger asked if she could discuss one of my neighbors. I welcomed her in because I thought she may need help, but she was visiting me to warn me. She asked me if I was afraid for the safety of my children because they were in a school where my neighbor is a teacher. I must've given her a look of confusion. She said that she knew "I had seen things."

Frankly, over the years I had heard her yelling at her boys (she is divorced) using four letter words and a variety of other actions. One time, she came over to our house very angry and yelling that she was going to kill her husband because he took her 3 boys because one of the boys had told their father that she pushed him. My husband tried to calm her down while I took my daughter out of the room because I didn't want her to hear my neighbor's cursing.

My daughters would ask why she was always yelling and they said it made them sad and they were scared of her. I also saw her threaten to slash tires of the church goers who park in front of her house. She also never waves at me when I wave hello and she totally ignores me or speeds up when she drives by me. When I see her at my children's school she sneers at me or looks away when I greet her. Obviously she doesn't care for me.

Back to the woman at my door: She tells me that she knows I've seen the neighbor's irrational behavior and that she should not be a teacher. She asks that I write a letter to our school's superintendent notifiying him of what I've witnessed. She asks if I am worried for my children. She said that my neighbor has "2 A1s against her." Come to find out an A1 is an abuse allegation. Then she tells me that my neighbor has told her that she hates me... hates my GUTS (she reiterated.) When I ask why she says that she is just irrational. When I ask again later she says it is racial profiling. I don't know what she meant by that.

All of this is going back 3 years now but I am still scared for my kids. A few times they have missed the bus and I was so scared that they were abducted or harmed by this woman. Sounds crazy I know, but my children mean everything to me and their safety is my greatest concern.

I told the principal not to assign my children to her class. And I have not witnessed her yelling or pushing her children in the past year. (I think her husband has custody.) But, I still worry that my children are in the same school building with her all day. What should I do??

The very first thing I do is ask myself "cui bono?" That is, who benefits? Your visitor's agenda was to have that teacher fired. She cited allegations as a reason. That's pretty flimsy, isn't it. Maybe the visitor is the source of the allegations. She mentioned that your neighbor hates you. How did she know that?

Does what you have personally seen, not hearsay from the visitor, give you reason to think that you should report it to the school?

I have learned to believe none of what I hear through the grapevine and to question the intentions of people who are telling me things "for my own good."

Me? I would do nothing except never allowing "that woman" in my house again.

Keep away from the manipulator as she will only bring you trouble and grief. And don't believe a word she says. Have you ever talked with the teacher neighbor of yours to assess this situation yourself? If not, maybe you should pay her a visit considering the fact that you are listening to the vicious nasty neighbor's allegations. Time to judge for yourself. Why should you worry about a teacher at school during school hours? I wouldn't.

I would be more worried about the person telling you, that had to come in and "warn" you without even getting to know you.

And a are your kids in the teachers house ? What happens in personal life is also not classroom