I am 23, Married for a little over a year and have never had an Orgasm, ever... I think its pathetic on my side.. I really would like to have one and enjoy sex more for a change.. please help, thanks

Can you give YOURSELF an orgasm?

If not, that's where you need to start.

You can't teach someone ELSE to please you if you don't know what will please yourself.

I have tried (lots of times) , nothing happends.. we have tried and nothing happends...

You need to experiment on your own.

Orgasms in women generally require that you be relaxed, mentally in the moment--and that you NOT be thinking about your orgasm. It defeats the purpose. Just enjoy what feels good to your body, and surrender to the feelings.

Masturbate ON YOUR OWN. Learn how you like to touch your OWN body, when you are relaxed and comfortable and turned on.

Get rid of distractions. Have your bedroom always clean and a refuge. Do NOT think about what you should be doing instead of touching yourself.

Your husband cannot "give" you an orgasm. He may be able to help you reach one--but you have to be mentally in that moment.

I am 23, Married for a little over a year and have never had an Orgasim, ever... I think its pathetic on my side.. I really would like to have one and enjoy sex more for a change.. please help, thanks

Sex should be enjoyable whether have an orgasm or not.

Is having sex more about what turns your husband on than you getting into it? Are you rushing through the build up trying to get to the climax?

By the way, stop thinking that it is 'pathetic' on your side. It is very normal for women to have problems with orgasms. We aren't built like men and it takes learning what triggers our climax and for each woman it is different. It should be a pleasurable learning experience not one that makes you feel negatively about yourself.

It sounds like you need to take a step back and find what really turns you on. Relax and enjoy the journey.

If you can't bring yourself to orgasm with your hands, or his hands, you could get yourself a vibrator and try that, they usually hit the spot.

Speaking of which you and your partner do know where your clitoris is I assume, don't think of course we do in fact many women don't know this and neither do many men.

Its just above your vagina entrance it's a little hardish piece of flesh/grissle, and protrudes a little, its often sensitive to touch, and needs gently caressing, in a circular motion, or side to side, when you get aroused it swells slightly.

Get a mirror and take a look, its just below your pubic hair in between the outer labia lips. Directly above your vagina opening.

It could be that all you need to do is direct him towards this, and also its purely for pleasure the clitoris serves no other purpose.

Hope this helps.

Also tell your husband to try not to rub it off, many men do this and its not going to get you any closer to your orgasms, gently does it treat the love button with care...

I will never forget my first orgasm... it was amazing.

It took over half an hour... but I was determined. The technique I have picked up always helps me orgasm much quicker. I can usually have one amazing orgasm and 2 smaller ones within 15 minutes of masturbating. Lay flat on your back and rub your clitorous in a circular motion, slow at first, and just relax. Start to pick up pace. Try stiffening your leg muscles, holding them stiff for a few minutes and releasing. Do this over and over. Also hold your breath for 10ish seconds, after you release your breath repeat. I have no idea why this works, or if it would work for anyone else but it is amazing. Just thinking about it is hot. Also try a vibrator, or maybe water pressure (hot tub jet, shower head, etc). Mmm

Also, right when you are about to orgasm, always release your breath it makes it feel even better. You will pick this up easier as you can achieve orgasm easier.