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toshyte
Jul 5, 2010, 10:53 AM
I have lot's of friends, with them I can speak about everything, but as soon as I go out with some girl I suddenly don't know what to say, we have so many these silent moments and I don't know how to fill them... This is really important because I like this one girl and we will have date in two days and I have no idea what about I going to talk about with her! We already have met few times, and I really like her a lot, but I don't know if she does.

I wish
Jul 5, 2010, 10:56 AM
Sometimes, overthinking what you want to say can make you even more nervous.

Ask questions and get the ball rolling. Once she answers your question, you can create new questions based on her answers. That way, you don't have to show up with a list of questions before the date. Even a "how was your day?" can really get the ball rolling. The key is to listen carefully to what she says.

As for your feelings for her. Seems like you don't know her very well yet, so don't let your feelings for her get the best of you. Enjoy her company and enjoy getting to know her better. Let it flow from there.

Don't overanalyze everything.

redhed35
Jul 5, 2010, 11:01 AM
Ask her questions about herself,and build on that,example,what kind of music do you like,try and find some common ground,don't worry too much about the silence,try and be your confident,and don't worry you,if you panic,you will end up filling the silence with dribble.

What have you planned for the date?

Try and get an activity in,or something you can both talk about,if it's a movie,talk about films old films,childhod memories.

Are you up to date on current issues,read the papers,ask her what does she think about so and so.

Sports? Does she support any teams,did she ever see a match.

Listen to what she is saying,in your head try not to jump ahead for your reply,but really listen.

positiveparent
Jul 6, 2010, 08:38 AM
Do you share a similar taste in music , or the movies, dance, environmental issues, if you know a subject she's very interested in you could try talking about that.

Or do you know what she plans to study at Uni, what her hopes and dreams of the future are, does she have a pet, or like certain animals.

Any of the subjects that she's interested in would be easy for you both to talk about.

Have a think and see what you can come up with and make that a topic for conversation. Good Luck...

CallofDutyQueen100
Jul 6, 2010, 10:15 AM
I know when I talk to guys I like when they're funny yet respectful and don't go overboard with jokes and stuff. Just be calm and be yourself. Also ask her questions about stuff like sports, music, hobbies, favorite subjects , etc.