Hi.. Thank you for taking the time to read my question. I very much appreciate it. Okay so I'll start by saying that I am 19 years old.. I work 2 full time jobs and am financially stable. I've been with my boyfriend for over 2 years and we're building our future together. Recently something came up though. I don't want to be judged, I know my decisions aren't exactly smart but we all make bad decisions in life. I put myself on birth control about 3 monthes ago and my goodness has it been an issue for me!. I'm on the pill, not the shot or nuvaring. I've been taking my pill everyday when I get up in the morning as I should. Last week though, I woke up as usual and went to take my pill and realized that I was on my Friday pill (it was Saturday).. I don't know how it happened but somewhere during that week I must've missed one and didn't realize it. (Does that happen often with girls?)... I don't talk to my mom much and don't have many close friends anymore since I graduated high school. I don't have anyone to really ask or talk to about this and I'd really like to have professional answers on some sort of level. If there's women reading this... you'll know what I'm talking about. I was on the 3rd row of pills when I realized I missed. Now I'm at the end of the week on my brown pills (the iron ones that are for your period) except I haven't gotten my period... but the thing is though, that the birth control has really messed up my system. Before this week, I've had my period like everyday since I started taking the pills a few monthes ago, and I have been having sex. (not since I realized that I missed my pill though) but I did before that.. I'm sorry if this is hard to keep up with, its all mumble jumble in my head too and I don't know what to think, but I don't have my period when I should be having it, because the last row of pills is when your supposed to get it right?. I just don't understand if its just these birth control pills.. or if I'm pregnant. If I was pregnant however, I would be blessed but at the same time heartbroken. My boyfriend and I would financially be able to take care of a baby even though we have no college education. (I'm a manager at a resort and I run a logde and I get paid very well, my boyfriend works on small motors and does carpentry) and I know how much babies cost (my older sister got pregnant when she was 17 so I've got the hands-on experience of bring-home-baby as well) but its more selfish reasons I don't want one... I'm still living my life for me and my boyfriend, and when any 2 people have a baby, that's their lives. I'm scared. I just need some friendly advice to help me get through this. I'd really appreciate it if nobody brings me down about this.. because I already feel horrible.
I'll try to give as much personal information as possible to hopefully give a clearer understanding of my situation. I suppose I should also add that the 2 big reasons I put myself on birth control in the first place was because my period was so irregular and of course to prevent pregnancy. So to summarize all this confusingness.. As soon as I realized I missed my pill, my period stopped. I had my period for the whole month before that. I had sex without a condom during that week I missed my pill. My period has been VERY irregular since the first time I got it... Any answers or advice would be very much appreciated. I've been keeping to myself about this whole thing and just writing about it already makes me feel better... I appreciate answers from everyone... but I would more prefer them to be from older women. Like I said, I don't talk to my Mom and it'd make me more comfortable to be able to take advice from women who've probably been exactly where I am, right now.


Thank you for reading all this mumble jumble, I appreciate it more than words.

--Ashley

Sounds like your body is having trouble with that pill. Every one has missed a pill a time or two. I thing you should tell your gyno what's going on though. I wouldn't say you were pregnant buy with the issues your having it doesn't hurt to take a test. Thanks for being responsible and realizing that you don't need a baby right now.

Sounds like your body is having trouble with that pill. Every one has missed a pill a time or two. I thing you should tell your gyno whats going on though. I wouldn't say you were pregnant buy with the issues your having it doesn't hurt to take a test. Thanks for being responsible and realizing that you don't need a baby right now.

Thank you for the advice. =]

When I first married we were using the pill as birth control. Bear in mind this was 25 years ago and formulations for the pill have changed a lot since then. I had very similar problems with none of the brands really suiting my body. I had the problem with bleeding at the wrong time and my doctor said it was called breakthrough bleeding and was common, should subside after 3 months or so on a brand, and did not indicate that the contraception was ineffective.

However I also missed a pill somehow, only realising as yourself when I spotted the day was wrong on the pack, and I did get pregnant. Luckily this wasn't a problem for me. I went on to have my 2 kids and never did find a brand that worked for me so we switched to other methods.

This doesn't mean that you are pregnant but I would be inclined to get a test to be on the safe side. I do think it is unlikely still, I was in the minority in having it happen. If it is negative do see your contraception provider about making sure you find something that works for you.

I had the same problem as you when I started the pill. The first month I had a light period ALL MONTH! Then after I took the last week on the packet I started to get a normal period.

I also have missed a tablet. I freaked out and got myself worried. My period didn't come the next week which had me even more worried.

I waited to see if maybe I had just missed my period which can happen and when the next period came around I was worried as 2 days into when I would usually have my period I still didn't have them. The next morning I took a pregnancy test. It was negative so I left like a massive weight had been lifted off my shoulders!

The next night I got my periods. I later asked my doctor about this and he said stress can cause your periods to stop. I had myself that worried I stopped my periods.

Maybe try and relax a little bit. Take a pregnancy test in a few weeks if it is positive then you have some decision making but if it is negative then your mind will be put to easy and your period will probably come.