AMK9109
Jul 1, 2010, 08:01 AM
Hi.. Thank you for taking the time to read my question. I very much appreciate it. Okay so I'll start by saying that I am 19 years old.. I work 2 full time jobs and am financially stable. I've been with my boyfriend for over 2 years and we're building our future together. Recently something came up though. I don't want to be judged, I know my decisions aren't exactly smart but we all make bad decisions in life. I put myself on birth control about 3 monthes ago and my goodness has it been an issue for me!. I'm on the pill, not the shot or nuvaring. I've been taking my pill everyday when I get up in the morning as I should. Last week though, I woke up as usual and went to take my pill and realized that I was on my Friday pill (it was Saturday).. I don't know how it happened but somewhere during that week I must've missed one and didn't realize it. (Does that happen often with girls?)... I don't talk to my mom much and don't have many close friends anymore since I graduated high school. I don't have anyone to really ask or talk to about this and I'd really like to have professional answers on some sort of level. If there's women reading this... you'll know what I'm talking about. I was on the 3rd row of pills when I realized I missed. Now I'm at the end of the week on my brown pills (the iron ones that are for your period) except I haven't gotten my period... but the thing is though, that the birth control has really messed up my system. Before this week, I've had my period like everyday since I started taking the pills a few monthes ago, and I have been having sex. (not since I realized that I missed my pill though) but I did before that.. I'm sorry if this is hard to keep up with, its all mumble jumble in my head too and I don't know what to think, but I don't have my period when I should be having it, because the last row of pills is when your supposed to get it right?. I just don't understand if its just these birth control pills.. or if I'm pregnant. If I was pregnant however, I would be blessed but at the same time heartbroken. My boyfriend and I would financially be able to take care of a baby even though we have no college education. (I'm a manager at a resort and I run a logde and I get paid very well, my boyfriend works on small motors and does carpentry) and I know how much babies cost (my older sister got pregnant when she was 17 so I've got the hands-on experience of bring-home-baby as well) but its more selfish reasons I don't want one... I'm still living my life for me and my boyfriend, and when any 2 people have a baby, that's their lives. I'm scared. I just need some friendly advice to help me get through this. I'd really appreciate it if nobody brings me down about this.. because I already feel horrible.
I'll try to give as much personal information as possible to hopefully give a clearer understanding of my situation. I suppose I should also add that the 2 big reasons I put myself on birth control in the first place was because my period was so irregular and of course to prevent pregnancy. So to summarize all this confusingness.. As soon as I realized I missed my pill, my period stopped. I had my period for the whole month before that. I had sex without a condom during that week I missed my pill. My period has been VERY irregular since the first time I got it... Any answers or advice would be very much appreciated. I've been keeping to myself about this whole thing and just writing about it already makes me feel better... I appreciate answers from everyone... but I would more prefer them to be from older women. Like I said, I don't talk to my Mom and it'd make me more comfortable to be able to take advice from women who've probably been exactly where I am, right now.
Thank you for reading all this mumble jumble, I appreciate it more than words.
--Ashley
I'll try to give as much personal information as possible to hopefully give a clearer understanding of my situation. I suppose I should also add that the 2 big reasons I put myself on birth control in the first place was because my period was so irregular and of course to prevent pregnancy. So to summarize all this confusingness.. As soon as I realized I missed my pill, my period stopped. I had my period for the whole month before that. I had sex without a condom during that week I missed my pill. My period has been VERY irregular since the first time I got it... Any answers or advice would be very much appreciated. I've been keeping to myself about this whole thing and just writing about it already makes me feel better... I appreciate answers from everyone... but I would more prefer them to be from older women. Like I said, I don't talk to my Mom and it'd make me more comfortable to be able to take advice from women who've probably been exactly where I am, right now.
Thank you for reading all this mumble jumble, I appreciate it more than words.
--Ashley