View Full Version : I really fancy a friend of mine don't know how he feels about me but I am married
brindle
Jun 30, 2010, 04:35 AM
A couple of nights ago I had a dream that I kissed a friend of mine my husband the same night dreamed that I was going to go off with someone else didn't say who since then I have realized that I do have feelings for my friend and can't stop thinking about him also it is hard because he is also my husbands friend and he lives in the same close as us
Barry1981
Jun 30, 2010, 04:54 AM
I'm sorry but you really need to get a grip... you're married and he's a friend of your husbands.
Where do you think this is going to lead? Pursuing feelings like this will cause nothing but pain and cost you everything you currently take for granted.
roxypox
Jun 30, 2010, 05:14 AM
Yeah, you really do need to get a grip. You need to put a stop to the feelings or swallow them whole.. like Barry said: Where do you really think this is going to lead?
Do you think this sudden "Realisation" could be about your relationship with your husband and not about your friend? Sometimes people do make up a fantasy or two (both consiously and sub-consiously) as a way to distract themselves from what ever is going on in their current relationship.
talaniman
Jun 30, 2010, 06:19 PM
All this over a dream?? Okay what's really going on?? Do nothing and the feelings will fade. That's your best bet.
Fr_Chuck
Jun 30, 2010, 06:25 PM
Yes, you don't do anything, expect perhaps work on your marriage with your husband.
Stringer
Jun 30, 2010, 07:00 PM
What has happened to "love and honor?" Aren't we mature enough to realize what a commitment is?
So, you purse this fantasy, possibly end your marriage over it and when the fantasy hits the wall because you found another and another fantasy... what then? Isn't who you are inside a valuable asset? Why squander it all away because you may have a 'tingle.'
I don't know if you have any children but if someday they came to you and presented you with the same problem, what would you suggest that they do?
Stringer
PS 'Stand for something or fall for everything or everyone... ' Stringer
Kitkat22
Jun 30, 2010, 07:09 PM
You have a good husband who loves you and yet you are thinking about someone else. That is just unbelievable.
You need to work on your marriage and stop having hot flashes over your husband's friend.
Clough
Jul 1, 2010, 01:18 AM
Hi, brindle!
If you're truly committed to your husband, does there need to be a question or issue at all?
Thanks!
Kitkat22
Jul 1, 2010, 09:08 AM
Stay away from your husbands friend. I think your hormones must be out of whack.