OK so bear with me this is a long story ill provide as many details as possible. So I met a girl about 4 months ago online. We talked allot and had good convos. She is 19 and I am 18. Three weeks ago we decided to take things further and make things official between us. Everything was going great I was falling for her. We never got to hang out she was always busy she blew me off a couple of times but they were legit resons. So up until a couple of days ago things started to change. She was very upset and wasn't having a good day. There were family issues going on. So today is now wed and things have been getting a little worse. Yesterday we talked things through and we decided that we were still together. But then she went on how things have been rough and she brought up her ex. She told me that she was afraid of getting into another long term relationship (with me) because the last guy cheated on her after a yr. This was back in jan so its been about 6 months. So I'm not worried about her getting back together with him. So I told her that I was there for her and I'm not that type of guy which I'm really not. So today rolls around and this all come up again. I told her we can take things slow if that would be the best thing to do right now. She said yes but didn't want to be a burden on me. So I explained how she wasn't and I said we can get through this. She then tells me she is just being stubbon and fear is controlling her right now. Once again she says things are rough right now. So thers the story. I would just like to get some advice on what to do next I really like this girl and I don't want to move on. How can I make thigs go back to the way they were. Serious answers only please thank you and thanks for the time for reading this.

Sounds to me that she's having second thoughts. I'd just let her have a bit of space and let her figure out what she wants.

Worst thing you can do right now is keep pestering her because that's just going to push her away further.

Sounds to me that she's having second thoughts. I'd just let her have a bit of space and let her figure out what she wants.

i'd just let her have a bit of space and let her figure out what she wants.

Should I stop texting her for a few days or just limit them to a few at night to ask her how the day went? Thank you for answering

I would stop texting her , that way she will realise your not sitting around waiting for her like a little puppy , and in the process lose your dignity.

Point is if she's decided your not for her there's nothing you can do now to convince her other than being a man about it.

I would stop texting her , that way she will realise your not sitting around waiting for her like a little puppy , and in the process lose your dignity.

Point is if she's decided your not for her there's nothing you can do now to convince her other than being a man about it.

She told me we were still together she just wants to take things slow so she can figure things out. She said things could get better with time

Or they could get worse, I suggest you just carry on living your life and don't pin your hopes on anything developing with this girl.

You that's what I plan on doing. I'm going to stop texting her for a few days and if nothing happens then ill have to move on

I would let her deal with her issues and unpack her own baggage, in her own time and would never have stopped doing my thing even if she stopped being a part of it.

She has other things to do and you are not very high on her priority list.

In your favor, you are not holding on to false hope about her, and that's good. Just keep it real.