PDA

View Full Version : Help I am shy


em_111
Jun 28, 2010, 02:29 PM
I am 15 and I'm super shy. I have been my entire life. I feel really self conscience when talking to anyone. I don't really make friends easily as a consiquence.
I managed to overcome my shyness with my boyfriend and now he knows me better than anyone. But its still bad with everyone. Especially his parents, I find it really hard to talk to them or make conversation, and its really affecting my realationship with my boyfriend. Can anyone help ?

cdad
Jun 28, 2010, 03:04 PM
What are you worried about? That is usually the root of shyness. You need to get over yourself. There are 2 kinds of people. Those that accept your for who you are and those that don't. Its really that simple. Since you have someone that admires you then you already know where he stands. And so just be yourself and stop worrying what others think. Many times people can be jealous and they aren't going to tell you. So really just relax. Move forward. For conversation try listening and see what the other parties focus is. If you feel you need to brush up on the topics they enjoy. But NEVER just agree with them if your of an opposing opinion. It not only is disrespectful but also belittling to yourself. Go forward and show the world who you are.

appylvr
Jul 1, 2010, 05:43 PM
I have found that the best way to talk to other peoples parents is to talk about things that they would expect you to talk about. For example talk about something funny, but not embarrassing that happened to you or someone else. If you make them laugh, they are more likely to open up to you. I would talk to his mom more because you are the same gender. Then again, I am in middle school so what do I know?(assuming that you are in high school)

ITstudent2006
Jul 1, 2010, 05:46 PM
Honestly just be ourself. Whomever that may be. Your boyfriend likes you for you. The one thing a lot of shy people end up doing is acting the way they think people want them to act, and that is a mistake being who you're not is no way to live life.

Just take it easy be breezy and be who you are. Life's much better when you're real with yourself and others.

Rick

yasmin19
Jul 2, 2010, 06:00 AM
Stop worrying sweetie.
I used to be so shy, I would over analyse everything which made me feel so daunted to talk to people.
Your boyfriend obviously thinks your wonderful so chances are his parents do too.
People are a lot more understanding of shy people than you think. There's a difference between being shy but polite (when people know you're making an effort because you are there and trying to join in) and people who are shy and just rude.

As long as you go to see his parents they will see you are making the effort for their son and they'll love you for it. :) xx