Hello everyone,

I'm new at this but I would really hope this can help me.
My boyfriend and me been together for 8 months, at first sex was of course Pleasurable, I'm not saying it stopped being, but lately I been thinking and sometimes feel upset and sad before when we had sex he use to come every time, but now he doesn't, it also happened yesterday at night we were having sex and he ended up not coming he wanted to do it again but I said no, this of course affects me because I think of so many things like sometimes I think that he's cheating on me and that's why he doesn't bother coming nomore because he maybe doesn't like how we do it anymore, I think so much but I also think he works in a store where he carries lots of heavy boxes and maybe that can cause Hernia which he can have difficulties in coming when we have sex anyway please advice me thank you.

How often do you guys have sex? Maybe he is masturbating frequently and then when you guys have sex he is unable to for that reason.

I'd talk to him about it in a casual way, not during or before sex though.

We have sex maybe twice a week and rest the other week but like I said before we had sex maybe Twice each week and he use to come every time but now it takes so long or most of the times he doesn't come, and yea he was telling that he masturbates most of the times.

Well I think that is probably the biggest problem there. Guys lose interest in having sex if they masturbate too frequently. Why does he masturbate so often, is everything else all right in your relationship apart from him not finishing ?

Lately we haven't had sex enough so that causes him to mastubate but we had sex the day before yesterday and again he didn't come so I'm starin to wonder is this the cause for him masturbating a lot or is he really cheating on me, he said he would go to see his doc for a check up

Does he come when he masturbates? If so, no need for a check up.

I wouldn't presume he is cheating just because he doesn't , you really need to continue talking to him. Communication is the key to any relationship and it sounds like there possibly is some other problem which is causing him to want to masturbate more frequently.