The dots are not wart like, they look loike white heads but I have had sex before so I am horrified. The dots do not hurt or swell in size, they are just simply there. I'm afraid to tell my parents and my doctor

It is probably normal and harmless. Check out this link and see if you think this is what you see:

Fordyce's spot - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fordyce's_spot)

If you have pain, reddness, itching, swelling or other problems associated with these spots, tell your parents.