unexpected74
Jun 20, 2010, 05:08 PM
Ok to start with I will give you a little background about this whole situation. I have been in 3 long term relationships, after they had ended I had no problem never talking to them again or even having the urge to look them up on any social web site until my current x. My current x and I were together for 2 1/2 years and went through a lot. I had never cried over a guy or his actions until him, in a way I consider him my first love.
What I don't understand is he treated me better than I have ever been treated by anyone, and worse. A couple months after we broke up I got rid of the rest of his things he left behind and everything that was "our memory". About 7 months after we ended our relationship I started dating other guys. To say the least I never had a second date with any guy. I don't think I am obsessed with my x because I don't check up on him, I don't think about him constantly, when I date new guys I don't look for specific characteristics about them that were related to my x, I am very happy with my life and my situation but this is where the real problem comes in.
After going so long without any contact with my x one day he randomly showed up at my doorstep with 2 dozen roses, half white half red, 2 page poem and a mountain dew. That day I had a friend over that happened to be a guy, my x was devastated and would not answer my phone calls or texts. Since that day I can not get him off my mind and its driving me crazy. Three weeks later he sent me a text to wish me a happy birthday. Long story short we hung out and had an amazing time together, did a lot of things that we wanted to do in our relationship but never got around to, after the second day of hanging out we got drunk and he cried to me to tell me how bad he screwed up and what he would do to have me back. I still get butterflies every time I hear his voice and still love him as much as I ever had. He spent the rest of the night holding me in his arms and watching me sleep. The next day he sent me a text and at the end it said, "Give me a call when you wake up luv." He has never used the word love to me, it always was Love.
Am I setting myself up to let him use me? Is he scared that I will reject him? Since it didn't work the first time is there any "real" chance it would work a second time? Is the reason I can't find another guy is because I truly have not let go of him, or am I just looking in the wrong places? I have never been like this, every time I get a text or a call I jump to my phone, I now leave it on at night to make sure I don't miss a call or text from him, and sadly sometimes I don't answer just so that he will leave a voice mail that I can listen to whenever I want.
Please help me those of you that have been in a similar situation, what are your opinions? Sorry so long
Thanks
What I don't understand is he treated me better than I have ever been treated by anyone, and worse. A couple months after we broke up I got rid of the rest of his things he left behind and everything that was "our memory". About 7 months after we ended our relationship I started dating other guys. To say the least I never had a second date with any guy. I don't think I am obsessed with my x because I don't check up on him, I don't think about him constantly, when I date new guys I don't look for specific characteristics about them that were related to my x, I am very happy with my life and my situation but this is where the real problem comes in.
After going so long without any contact with my x one day he randomly showed up at my doorstep with 2 dozen roses, half white half red, 2 page poem and a mountain dew. That day I had a friend over that happened to be a guy, my x was devastated and would not answer my phone calls or texts. Since that day I can not get him off my mind and its driving me crazy. Three weeks later he sent me a text to wish me a happy birthday. Long story short we hung out and had an amazing time together, did a lot of things that we wanted to do in our relationship but never got around to, after the second day of hanging out we got drunk and he cried to me to tell me how bad he screwed up and what he would do to have me back. I still get butterflies every time I hear his voice and still love him as much as I ever had. He spent the rest of the night holding me in his arms and watching me sleep. The next day he sent me a text and at the end it said, "Give me a call when you wake up luv." He has never used the word love to me, it always was Love.
Am I setting myself up to let him use me? Is he scared that I will reject him? Since it didn't work the first time is there any "real" chance it would work a second time? Is the reason I can't find another guy is because I truly have not let go of him, or am I just looking in the wrong places? I have never been like this, every time I get a text or a call I jump to my phone, I now leave it on at night to make sure I don't miss a call or text from him, and sadly sometimes I don't answer just so that he will leave a voice mail that I can listen to whenever I want.
Please help me those of you that have been in a similar situation, what are your opinions? Sorry so long
Thanks