Im about to graduate college in 2 semesters. I started going out with a girl that I met a year ago, nothing happened and then this year I asked her out on a date because my friend was performing in a concert and I had an extra free ticket. I was physically attracted to the girl, but because of a couple of things the year before I wasn't that attracted to her. The date went really well and I began to fall in love with her. I had her over another time. We were in my bed but nothing happened because I wussed out and also I had work to do and a test the next morning. About a month went by and I didn't see her or pursue her but we talked online.

At the time when we went out on the date she was going out with her boyfriend from high school... things weren't really working out with him at that point already because they were both busy and weren't hanging out anymore. Her Facebook profile said in a relationship at the time we went on our first date, but she soon broke up with him after we went out... about 3 weeks later her Facebook profile changed to single. I didn't see her for a good 6 weeks after or so... I tried to get together with her plenty of times... asking her to be my valentine and calling and texting her a lot... It turns out she was going out with some other guy that lives in her neighborhood and it was a purely physical relationship. He came back later and bugged her about being in love with her... so that was not good timing for me. I was already wearing my heart on my sleeve and it didn't get me anywhere.

Anyway, I confronted her about liking me... because I knew she did... she would always contact me with random messages... she told me that she thought of me as just a friend... so I backed off and told her to hit me up if she ever needed a friend. A week went by and she began texting me again... I asked her when she would admit that she liked me and she said that she was afraid to like me. Does that mean? I took it as afraid that she would fall in love with me and I would leave her to go home after I graduated college. She told me that she was afraid to hurt me because she didn't want a relationship and that I would be hurt when I wanted one... So that was about 3 months ago but our first date was about 6 months ago... its killing me inside because I have definitely fallen in love with this girl over the months... and I know she likes me. We've kissed passionately many times and have gotten to 2nd and almost 3rd base. I asked her about other guys and she said that she's not a hoe and she only talks to one guy at a time... she has a good amount of guy friends and a huge family. She usually hangs with them and her best friend on the weekend and works all week. She used to come over to see me and used to be really affectionate like tell me she misses me and needs me to be there, I can't go over there because I don't have a car but now she doesn't as often. Im lucky if I see her every 2 weeks... its been 3 weeks since I've seen her and she's blown me off twice in a row but if she were really interested she would MAKE the time to come see me right?

recently she introduced me to her family so I know she isn't totally emotionally unavailable. I just don't want to be her lap dog and wait around for her forever... but at the same time she has a reason to resist getting too involved with me. Im trying to be patient... on a more depressing note, I have extended my time at college for a semester just to see what happens and I'm also trying to find a productive way(jobs internships) of staying here but at the same time I feel uneasy because what if it doesn't work out and I'm stranded here without her. What should I DO?

You need to get this girl out of your system and some terms she doesn't want to be you and her actions prove that. She always told you in the past she only sees you as a friend and you should have listen to that instead of sticking around trying to change that fact.

This girl is not looking to be tied now and right now and you need to accept that. It is common for colleges girls wanted there freedom to roam. Believe it or not there are more fishes in the sea and I think you should start fishing instead of sitting around being her lapdog waiting and wishing.

Also, just because you met her family doesn't mean a thing. Secondly, she cheated on her boyfriend when the two of you went out on your first date. Thirdly, she left youi to get back with him. ShouldI go on or do you see where this is going?

You are just one of the many things she occupies her time with, and no way should you be putting your life on hold, or making plans built around her.

You already have enough facts, so weigh that against your feelings and go do your thing they way you planned it.

You are hardly her first priority, and she may well dump you on your emotional but when something better comes along.

Just ask the guys before you, if you don't believe me. She probably is very good at getting another guys attention and time. That's a fact.

Agree with the above two posts. It's a waste of time."she's just not that into you". I know it hurts,but its true. You'll learn a good lesson from this and trust me,a few years down the line,you'll look back and think how stupid it was to have wasted time over this.
There is someone out there who would appreciate you and love you back.Drop this and get on with life. Plenty to look forward to.
Have fun.

I think you guys are right... I'm just so caught up in this right now... should I tell her that this is goodbye or should I just ignore her? Is there any possibility that she will come around if I tell her that this is goodbye?