INeedAGoodName
Jun 16, 2010, 06:50 PM
Basically me and this girl have been talking for a few months now and get on really well, we're both young (I'm 17) and we tell each other everything, talk all the time (we've been known to talk for over six hours... ) and just generally get on really good.
Anyway a few days ago I told her how I felt about her (just wanted to see her happy etc... her last boyfriend was a total ?#!* and hit her and stuff) and that whatever happens I'll always be there for her as I have before and she tells me she really likes me and trusts me because I've been there for her, make her laugh, she feels like she has good conversations which never end with me unlike this other dude (later on) who sounds like a (and I quote) "chav robot" etc. So we're deciding on what we're going to do... we don't think our friendship would be ruined if it doesn't workout because we get on too well for that to be the case.
But then she does the whole 'however... ' bit which everybody knows is never good! She said that her feelings for me are really strong and they'll never go away because of how good I've been with her and that I tell her things that nobody has ever said to her before however she thinks she likes another guy.
Now at first this was obviously a major blow however like I said before, all I want is to see happy and if she's happy with him and us being really close friends then that's fine with me. The only problem is that she's already told me about some initial concerns of hers over this guy. I won't tell you everything but this will put him into perspective, this guy found a phone and instead of going through the contacts trying to find whose it is to hand it to them he's told her he's going to "sell it so I can take you(her) out". Now her feelings were the same as mine (and I hope everyone else's!) about this... she was like 'wth.. how lovely... not' (but didn't say this to him).
She's told me she's not too sure what she likes about him as he's completely different to her! He likes 'grime' music and she likes pop, for those UK users on here he's a 'chav' and she's... well she's nothing at all like a chav! It's worrying how blind she appears to be going with this dude (and I'm not just being bitter!) I generally think it'll end in tears again... and she doesn't install me with confidence when she says "I don't know why I'm with him... all he'll probably want to do is cinema > drunk > sex, which he isn't getting from me!".
Anyone been in a situation like this before? I've tried telling her what I think about it and although she shares the same concerns about it she's still going through with it? She appears to be a love sick puppy with this guy... so far I've come to the conclusion of just backing away from the relationship thing which she's having and ignoring it, focusing on our really strong friendship which we have already which I've been doing for the past few days however I've been wondering if this is the right thing to do? It just feels like I'm waiting for it to all fall apart and then whiz around and pick up the pieces for her...
Anyway a few days ago I told her how I felt about her (just wanted to see her happy etc... her last boyfriend was a total ?#!* and hit her and stuff) and that whatever happens I'll always be there for her as I have before and she tells me she really likes me and trusts me because I've been there for her, make her laugh, she feels like she has good conversations which never end with me unlike this other dude (later on) who sounds like a (and I quote) "chav robot" etc. So we're deciding on what we're going to do... we don't think our friendship would be ruined if it doesn't workout because we get on too well for that to be the case.
But then she does the whole 'however... ' bit which everybody knows is never good! She said that her feelings for me are really strong and they'll never go away because of how good I've been with her and that I tell her things that nobody has ever said to her before however she thinks she likes another guy.
Now at first this was obviously a major blow however like I said before, all I want is to see happy and if she's happy with him and us being really close friends then that's fine with me. The only problem is that she's already told me about some initial concerns of hers over this guy. I won't tell you everything but this will put him into perspective, this guy found a phone and instead of going through the contacts trying to find whose it is to hand it to them he's told her he's going to "sell it so I can take you(her) out". Now her feelings were the same as mine (and I hope everyone else's!) about this... she was like 'wth.. how lovely... not' (but didn't say this to him).
She's told me she's not too sure what she likes about him as he's completely different to her! He likes 'grime' music and she likes pop, for those UK users on here he's a 'chav' and she's... well she's nothing at all like a chav! It's worrying how blind she appears to be going with this dude (and I'm not just being bitter!) I generally think it'll end in tears again... and she doesn't install me with confidence when she says "I don't know why I'm with him... all he'll probably want to do is cinema > drunk > sex, which he isn't getting from me!".
Anyone been in a situation like this before? I've tried telling her what I think about it and although she shares the same concerns about it she's still going through with it? She appears to be a love sick puppy with this guy... so far I've come to the conclusion of just backing away from the relationship thing which she's having and ignoring it, focusing on our really strong friendship which we have already which I've been doing for the past few days however I've been wondering if this is the right thing to do? It just feels like I'm waiting for it to all fall apart and then whiz around and pick up the pieces for her...