I come to this point that I'm, looking for others people opinion. Here is my story.
I met this guy at work about 2 years ago we start sleeping together, there is a difference in years between us (he is 29 I'm 38); he said that's not a problem for him. I'm very much in love with him (he said he loves me to) however he is telling me that he doesn't want a girlfriend ,he doesn't want to date me right now –and it will get serious when he is 30. but that is not everything , he never really ask me out, he always wants to met for few minuies never for longer time usually after work, never on the weekends, he almost never answer my calls or text me back. Also at work he wants to keep it secret (he is not married I'm sure ). He also never invited me to his home (he claims that he has roommates . Even one time one of his (female friends) showed at work, and he was kissing her for goodbye, that really hurt me so badly, but I was able to forgive him. What should I do ….. I'm very tired of the whole situation …should I wait for him ….or should I walk away immediately and don't waist my time any more.
Nathaly

Sounds like you got played by a player. It's pretty obvious that he is in a relationship already.

Sounds like you got played by a player. It's pretty obvious that he is in a relationship already.

What should I do , ditch him ? 2 years is long enough to make decision for any man ?

Yeah, ditch him. He's already in a relationship. You are only his gal pal on the side.

or should I walk away immediately and don’t waist my time any more.

That's exactly what you should do. That you have done this for two years, is hard to fathom, but enough of this secret BS! Yes he sounds like he was playing you.

So sorry.

I guess ,I was believing that he might change ,what should I tell him ,when he calls if he calls .we work together that is a hard part because I see him every day.

If he hasn't changed after 2 years, he's not going to change.

What to tell him? Just tell him that you think the relationship has run it's course and that it's time for you to move on and fine someone who is serious about relationships.

I cannot believe you let this go on for two whole years!

Who knows what other girls he was sleeping with, I hope you are current with your STD testing.

Get rid of him and find a man closer to your age and willing to get in a relationship. Try for no sex before a more committed relationship with your next partner.

You can do better than being a piece on the side.

I thing I was trying not to see all the signs ,but some one told me once that action speaks louder then wards . Thank you for your replay I really good to hear other peoples opinion.


No stds thank god

To me it seems like the two you just had a sexual relationship not a relationship. He might have told what you wanted to hear by saying he loves but he also told you want he doesn't want. He don't want to date or have a relationship with you but he doesn't mind screwing you.

I believe you already knew what needed to be done a long time ago but you stayed with him hoping and wishing one day he realize he wanted to be with. Time to do something you should have done a long time ago>>leave.

2 years is more than long enough to try to make this work. It's obviously not going anywhere, so why drag out the inevitable? Make it a clean break and move on to bigger and better things in life.

Thank you for your support I wish

Why are you there with all of the red flags flying?? He's definitely involved with someone else and you're just a little on the side.

DUMP HIM LIKE A HOT POTATO! It's obvious that he doesn't have your best interest at heart.

I'm not sure why I was waiting for such a long time , you right all the signs where there .I guess I was hoping for a change .thanks for your help