I have been with this girl for 2 years but during the time, I've left her to be with her friend and cousin for a few months. She stood beside me, listened to my problems and happy times with the new girls, she didn't give up on me. Her dad passed away during her exams and 17th birthday.
After all the hurt that I've done to her, her family (esp the bro and his the man of the house now - she's a very religious muslim girl - I'm catholic) doesn't approve of me anymore and doesn't allow us to be together. She asked for permission from them to be with me again but they denied it. Also, I found out that she's got a boyfriend and they've been together for a few weeks. He also lost his mum and she tells my cousin that her boyfriend understands and they relate cause they both lost their parents. Also, his birthday is the same day as her dads. They're family friends and his muslim. He lives 6 hours away from us.

We still talk a lot (I don't think she even talks to her boyfriend on the phone). She tells me what she's doing and where she is etc. I asked her if she believed we were meant to be and she said yes, everyone around us believes she will come back to me one day. I msged her last night saying "you're never coming back to me, are you?" she said... "someday." So, today I had to dig more info cause I don't know what to do. She would tell me it was painful when I was with these girls and had feelings for them. I asked her if she love this guy and she would avoid it but I'll make her say it, she would say yeah... and she would bring up the past girls and I would tell her I never meant it to them and she goes, maybe I don't mean it either. She slipped out today that she still loves me. For the last few months, she kept asking me if I would fight for her if she found someone else. I told her if she wants me to move on, she should get a new number and she wouldn't. She got pissed off cause I kept trying to give up, she was like move on if you want to, I don't want to tie you down. She admits she would have left him if her brother agreed on us. She said this is for now... but SOME of her friends know she's got a boyfriend. If she didn't like him much, why would she tell them right?

I don't understand or know what to do anymore. I know she still loves me very much but I have too much pride and ego to take her back one day after what she has done to me cause I kept trying to ask her if she would leave him for me now and she says she can't answer it. It's now or never but I don't know if I'm being too harsh cause she spent months around me while I was another girl, she kept trying to win me back. What should I do? Do you think she's doing this cause of her bro? He despises me. He kept telling me she's got a boyfriend and he was the one who told me? She didn't say anything cause she wanted to be with me if he agreed. Some people think he's just a friend and just playing along with the bro to make him happy.

She also says actions speak louder than words. Could she be testing me to see if I love her as much as I love her? Could she be wondering if I'll wait for her cause I told her I would if she ever found someone else? She doesn't say much about the guy and she says he isn't good looking or anything. She says it's her choice if she going to bother with the relationship or not cause I kept trying to sound happy and tell her to focus on her new guy but she says her education is more important. So, I told her while I do the same. Why don't you just stay single with me? She said when we're single, it hurts her to see the things I get up to with girls. I would go out with her and have a hickey on my neck and stuff. She smiles and laughs when I tell her that I know she loves me and I would win her back or when I say stuff like I want you back now. She still get jealous when it comes to other girls. She still cries over me.

I definitely know that girls like testing their guys always to reassure themselves that we care.


Sorry for the very long bad grammar complicated situation. Just needed to get things of my chest quickly and get some good advice and opinions.

Thank you for your time. Much appreciated.

Wait a second! Did you cheat or leave her to be with her friend or cousin? If you did then it is no wonder why her brother doesn't like you because after all how low can you go?

She has a boyfriend and told you she loves him so why are you even sticking around? If you was her first love then maybe she might still have feelings for you or maybe she is playing with your head, or maybe or maybe: the explainations for her actions are endless.

However, I think the two of you enjoy drama because that is all that can become of this situation. Then you have the balls to mad at her? I wonder how her boyfriend would feel if he knew what was going on behind his back? I might even think your enjoying this and sticking around to see if your going win her>>just my extra two cents.

The only question I have is "how long is this going continue?" I think you should move on and she should leave this guy alone if she can't commit to him.

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Harshness warning

Takes a lot of gall, in my book, to cheat on someone right in front of there face and then even more gall, to expect there are no consequences to pay.

I am on her side, and her families side, as they were right to forbid you contact, and she is justified in messing with your head, since you should have tucked your tail between your legs, and slunk away into the night like the vermin you are.

And that's how you end this confusion, and drama.