I was w/ my ex who I believe is my soul mate for almost 2 1/2 years and we just broke up a like a month ago. Before we officially broke up we were on a "break" for 2weeks but I pressured him to make a decision. We have lived together for more than a year and he packed up most of his stuff and moved in w/his brother.

He is the type of person who bottles everything up and I never knew there was anything wrong w/him, so all this took me by surprise and has shaken me up badly. He thinks I deserve better, and that he can't make me happy. He is under stress because he has failed out of school and might lose his job because of it. And is very worried about money. He says he knows he loves me, but it isn't fair to express it to me, but yet says he knows my feelings are stronger than his.

I know he also knows I want to eventually have a family, but he doesn't know if he does yet(he's 25). I do not care about all this because our relationship was almost perfect,& would give anything to have it back. I even said I did not need to know he wanted a family because I know he'll figure it out eventually and I would wait 10 years if I had to(I'm 21).

He is the love of my life and I do not want to let it go. I think he just needs time alone but it's killing me to not know if I will ever be w/ him again. I have insomnia and have lost 20 pounds in a month. He still wants to be my friend and we even still just recently went on the vacation we had planned on before the breakup, in which it seemed as everything was normal, but then we returned to "real-life", where he isn't here everyday. I need to know what to do and how to handle this. I need him back right now.

Hello Kiki I want to start by saying I'm sorry to hear u having trouble in your relationship life. From what I can see he need your support. Try not to pressure him he feeling down right now when it comes to money a man ego kicks in. It a man Job to take care of his household and if he fails his attitude will change. I know it difficult for you cause u want him around but if u push the wrong button u could make him mad and run him away. Just keep in contact with him and be his best friend. When true love is there reality will kick in and u guys will be back together again. Good luck!!

Hey-I think you should call him up and tell him you want to talk to him, but face-to-face. Have him meet you somewhere and tell him that the only thing that matters to you is him. That you really love him and would do anything for him. Just express yourself and maybe just maybe he'll understand and may feel the same way, but keep it inside. Good Luck with everything and I hope everything gets better!

Okay Kiki this is my advice.. Take it for what it's worth.
I was in a very similar situation with my current boyfriend. My boyfriend decided to break it off with me because he "wanted to make me happy". I cried my eyes out, I begged and pleaded with him, I told him I would change and I promised him the world. He laughed in my face and still broke it off. He told me that he could never make someone like me happy and he was making me happy by breaking up with me. Since I loved him with all my heart and soul I had to let him go. His mind was made up and he was not going to change it no matter what. If you truly love someone you can't make them stay. It sounds your ex-boyfriend is very confussed and really doesn't know what exactly he wants and needs in his life due to the circumstances he is in. It kind of seems like he wants to work on him and work things out with himself before he commits to a long term serious relationship with you. Have you ever heard of the saying. "If you love someone set them free, if they come back they are yours to keep." If he truly loves you he will come back. If he doesn't then it was never meant to be.

And that fuking sucks. :mad: