Sickoftw
Jun 8, 2010, 01:17 AM
Hi all,
I'm 29 yo,medical student in last year of study,I met my girlfriend 8 months ago,she is 22 yo,we both were ready for a serious relationship,because she actually never had occasional sex,in the beginning we used to meet quite a lot , after a month or so we had sex for the first time,after we came back from a disco... ever since I felt I'm falling in love with her,she felt the same,our relation went VERY fast,we were meeting almost every day,talking on phone hours and hours,having sex every day or at least 5 times a week.She never complained of any pain,she was always ready to have sex with me,we respect each other a lot,she always says I'm good in bed,she is gorgeous also.I buy her gifts and flowers all the time,talk to her younger sister as if she was my own sister,all my friends say she's a great girl,she likes my friends and I like hers... I really feel truly loved by this girl.
It all begun 3 months ago,she moved to live with me,we lived together 2 months... she started complaining of pains in her genitals because of the sex,and during the sex.She kept saying that I don't excite her enough before penetration and she is not wet enough... I tried oral,69,touching etc etc more often but still she kept detaching from sex... I have my own place,so there is no pressure from anyone,but she doesn't want to come to me like before.She doesn't look for sexual satisfaction anymore,although she keeps saying she's horny and she wants me... we have sex about once every 7 to 10 days.and when we have we both feel great.
She says to me she isn't no "sex machine" and that if I scream on her she doesn't desire me,and stuff like that (the lack of sex and her unwillingness to have sex have led to us having a "heavy discussion",and made me nervous,I masturbate almost every day,and she knows that,she just say to me don't do that,we will have sex,I actually wait sometimes but I get frustrated and masturbate).
Lately she bacame very gelous,she doesn't want me to look at people on the street,girls passing,I don't look at girls like sexual attraction,I don't even look!!
I asked her simply if she didn't fancy me, if she was going off me to which she laughed and said "of course not! I still really fancy you!".
She reassured me that it's not me, and that I am still very attractive to her.
Every time I try to talk to her about this subject she finds excuses and gets angry and she says she can't make sex with someone who argues with her... I'm being patient because I love her and I know she loves me a lot.
What to do about this or what's going on? I'm terrified she's going off me, or has gone off me and will end up terminating the relationship.
There's a saying "that sex is a good barometer of a relationship"!
Thank you for your time,please write your opinions I really need it... and I don't want to loose her,we already talked about marriage plans for next year and she's just helpful and great.
Any advice welcome.
I'm 29 yo,medical student in last year of study,I met my girlfriend 8 months ago,she is 22 yo,we both were ready for a serious relationship,because she actually never had occasional sex,in the beginning we used to meet quite a lot , after a month or so we had sex for the first time,after we came back from a disco... ever since I felt I'm falling in love with her,she felt the same,our relation went VERY fast,we were meeting almost every day,talking on phone hours and hours,having sex every day or at least 5 times a week.She never complained of any pain,she was always ready to have sex with me,we respect each other a lot,she always says I'm good in bed,she is gorgeous also.I buy her gifts and flowers all the time,talk to her younger sister as if she was my own sister,all my friends say she's a great girl,she likes my friends and I like hers... I really feel truly loved by this girl.
It all begun 3 months ago,she moved to live with me,we lived together 2 months... she started complaining of pains in her genitals because of the sex,and during the sex.She kept saying that I don't excite her enough before penetration and she is not wet enough... I tried oral,69,touching etc etc more often but still she kept detaching from sex... I have my own place,so there is no pressure from anyone,but she doesn't want to come to me like before.She doesn't look for sexual satisfaction anymore,although she keeps saying she's horny and she wants me... we have sex about once every 7 to 10 days.and when we have we both feel great.
She says to me she isn't no "sex machine" and that if I scream on her she doesn't desire me,and stuff like that (the lack of sex and her unwillingness to have sex have led to us having a "heavy discussion",and made me nervous,I masturbate almost every day,and she knows that,she just say to me don't do that,we will have sex,I actually wait sometimes but I get frustrated and masturbate).
Lately she bacame very gelous,she doesn't want me to look at people on the street,girls passing,I don't look at girls like sexual attraction,I don't even look!!
I asked her simply if she didn't fancy me, if she was going off me to which she laughed and said "of course not! I still really fancy you!".
She reassured me that it's not me, and that I am still very attractive to her.
Every time I try to talk to her about this subject she finds excuses and gets angry and she says she can't make sex with someone who argues with her... I'm being patient because I love her and I know she loves me a lot.
What to do about this or what's going on? I'm terrified she's going off me, or has gone off me and will end up terminating the relationship.
There's a saying "that sex is a good barometer of a relationship"!
Thank you for your time,please write your opinions I really need it... and I don't want to loose her,we already talked about marriage plans for next year and she's just helpful and great.
Any advice welcome.