Since the beginning of school, this guy and I have been best friends his name is anthony. We just met this year too and we are like siblings. I began to have really strong feelings for him. He said he liked me back but wanted to stay friends. So we did. After on he had other crushes and as did I, but inside I still had those feelings for him and I was just lying to myself when I siad I didn't like him. Well on night there was this big dance and that was when I realized I liked him again. Me and him were having a great time and we hing out with our other friends but he also slow danced with me a little. ( Now at this moment he didn't like anyone) After a while I was getting really jelous cause he was walking around with this other girl, a friend of ours her name is alondra. I told her to tell him I liked him so I figured she didbut they kept walking and talking. She came back not only to tell me he wouldn't mind dating me its just he was moving to Indiana with his mom. (his rents are divorced and his mum lives in Indiana and his dad lives here in illinois)After I heard that, I ran to the bathroom crying and someone told them I was crying in there and anthony said if alondra didn't go in there and get me, he would. Well I ran out of the bathroom with tears in my eyes and went away from him he was by alondra dancing acting ike nothing happened. I cried even more. My few girl friends wipped away my tears and hugged me and said a few minutes later he was looking for me. When he found me there he took my hand and took me to a hall where no one was. He asked what was wrong and I told him all of how I felt. What he told me is he really likes me too and all this. And after that night he gave me a huge tight huge. After the dance him and other people went to Chilies. (I saw pics he was having fun) I guess I kind of forgot about it too but still thought. Well two days after the dance, alondra asked if he still liked me. He responded "if i liked her, id date her" she said well I thought you told me you wouldn't mind dating her? He said he never said that. Now, I wasn't there when he said he wouldn't mind dating me or he would go into the bathroom to get me it was alondra who was with him. Because if he was saying that after he found out I was crying in there, why did he go off dancing with alondra? I was so upset because he claims he never said those things and that means he lied to both myself and alondra. But right now he and I are still friends, I never talked to him about what happened. Alondra did and I don't know if I should have but then we would get into a big fight. Everyone notices he leads me on ALL THE TIME! At six flags, when we were going on the V2 I was scared and he kept putting his arm around me, hugging me, holding my hands and all that. And when alondra was with us she said to me she noticed that too. But he says he never leads me on. He does indeed and he gets jelous. When I said I liked this one guy (I thought I did at the time) all anthony said was, how much the guy was a "fag" and all that when he doesn't even know him. But that was a while ago. He sometimes to me doesn't act like he wants to talk to me. I can't text but when icall, we don't talk long cause he tells me I call at bad times? I don't get that. But just yesturday we went to a friends grad party and he was all "we need to hang out!" and gave me a big hug, well two big hugs, before I left. And my friend said that every time I talk about another guy anthony gets mad and changes the subject. But right now I don't know if he still does that.
My point is, this kid is so confusing!! I really need help. Someone please help.

Hi, xxteeheexx!

When is the next time that you're going to see the guy that you're interested in, please?

Thanks!

I think you should forget about him.

Tell him when he hugs you that it is inappropriate. Don't message or call him. Make him call or message you IF he wants to talk. Don't give him attention Act like he is just another guy in the world.

If you find a new guy and he starts calling him names say to him that you don't appreciate him calling your friend names and if he continues to do so you will have to stop talking to him.

I think he just wants your attention. Maybe if he doent get it he will realise what you mean to him. (If you mean anything to him)

Yes but the thing is. He will never call me or any of that.

Well why waste your time anf efforts on someone who doesn't feel the same?

I'm not so sure, at this point, that he's not interested.

Well because I don't even know. That's why I'm so upset because he acts like he wants to talk to me and hang with me and all that but I always call him and I always wrote him.

Hmm Clough you're a man... Talk us through how they act. Because I don't understand males lol.

Neither do I. this is what stinks :/
And I really do want to talk to him about it, but I'm scared to. And I was planing on if he leads me on in some way like holding my hands and putting his arm around me, I was going to have a talk with him saying "this is exactly what i mean abotu you leading me on, stop it" but I have no clue the next time we see each other. He is with his momi think I don't know.

I think that men can be flirting just as much as women can, but sometimes be shy at the same time.

When I was a lot younger and very much into the dating scene, I could flirt, touch, be close with someone, etc. with whom I was interested in, but it might take me some time before I would actually ask that person out on a date for just the two of us.

In many ways, I was very shy, but still enjoyed to be close, in more ways than one, with my friends. That could be with males or females.

I think that some guys just like to "test the water" so to speak, before really "jumping in".

So, straight up and ask him the next time you see him, when he would like to hang out with you, since he already mentioned it to you about doing that.

You could ask him during a time when the two of you might be having fun and joking around and just bring it up in passing rather than have it be a really serious thing.

Good point. But I still am confused. Should I talk to him about all this?

I think that when you do speak with him, that you might want to not make things a big, complicated issue and just let things go with the flow, but also leave your options open in case someone else comes along.

He could just be a shy person who just needs some time...

Do you think and feel that it's okay to date more than one person during the same time, please?

Thanks!