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barbiechick123
Jun 6, 2010, 09:25 AM
Hey, well, I've been seeing this guy for a month and I really like him and things were great in the beginning. He'd text me everyday and try to make plans and see me a lot and now I feel like he's not. Like, it usually takes him a while to answer back, or he doesn't seem so bummed out when we can't hang out and just all that. I asked him a few days ago if he was losing interest and how he felt about "us" and he said that he felt great and that nothing's changing and he still really likes me and that I'm being paranoid. He said he's been really swamped and busy cause of Finals which is understandable, but he always makes time for his friends. It's been bugging me to NO END, seriously, I think about it during the day and I can't even sleep because he haunts my dreams, and I wake up often. What do I do?

redhed35
Jun 6, 2010, 09:28 AM
You could try backing off and giving him space,give him a chance to miss you.

Instead of worrying about it,get busy with your own life,if he asks why you have not been in contact,just say,you were giving him some space to finish his exams and that you too have been very busy,and how about meeting up later, or something along those lines.

Try not to sound needy,it's a big turn off,girls who are busy and happy on their own are attractive.

Homegirl 50
Jun 6, 2010, 09:49 AM
You sound pretty needy and are maybe missing the rush that comes when you first meet someone.
This guy has a life apart from you, school etc. You need to get one apart from him, so if you don't see or hear from him everyday it's no big deal.
You've been going out for a month, it's not like there is a long term serious relationship here and even those are not everyday intense.

barbiechick123
Jun 6, 2010, 09:51 AM
Thanks.. Yes, I am needy and I'll admit it, I need to change that asap. I just don't know how, it's hard to go about a daily life when I'm so confused and insecure.

Homegirl 50
Jun 6, 2010, 10:03 AM
You spend time doing things you like to do, hang out with friends. When you don't get so wrapped up in a guy or a relationship, the insecurities go way.
Relationships are not what defines you.

Homegirl 50
Jun 6, 2010, 11:06 AM
Do you have hobbies, things you like to do?