OK... well this all started last may... well a little before thst... mayb about last August... I starting going to a new church with my best friend... and I started an Affirmation class... and I really started to like this guy.. Eddie.. and we got to know each other better over the next few months.. and at that time.. I had yet to experence a REAL boyfriend... well one I considered a real one.. as I was saying

Well... within that few months we had gotten VERY close.. and I found out he liked me as well.. and then we started to talk more and more... and it had gotten to be mid may and we began to date... I had such a great time with him... and I hadn't felt like this about any other guy.. I had thought I did but those times didn't compare even close... 2 months had past and I began to fall in love... after the 1st month he had told me that he loved me.. but I didn't know how to respond... so I didn't say anything...

But in the second month we went to this camp type thing.. and he met another girl.. a girl I suppose he liked better then me... friends that had also attended this.. had told me.. that during the time that they were there the two of them got rather close... closer then they should have.. when he returned... and I got new of what had happened.. I stayed up night after night thinking about this... I then confronted him about what I had been told...

He ended up not talking to me for a week... and the :-/ when he had finally talked to me... he dumped me.. and used the line... I think we'd b better off friends.. worst of all... I thought I wazz deeply in love with him and he had told me the same... and he had dumped me over the computer and I thought over the phone would be bad

As soon as it read it... and the reality of what had just happened hit me.. I broke down in tears... I didn't know anything at the time... and worst of all my best friend wasn't within reach... as I was saying... I then ran up to my room... pulled out everything I had that he had given me and every picture I had to him and just destroyed everything... I wazz in dispare... I then cried for the next 3 hours.. and I didn't leave the house.. or my pj's for the next 3 days... for the next few months I had tried to talk to him...

I then entered a new relationship someone he knew... I then ended that relationship and entered a new one.. one that last 7 months... and over the time of these relationships.. I didn't relize until 1 month short of a year later that I was only preoccuping myself with other relationships... I then this just last may began to date him again... I know I shouldn't have but I did...

After the 1st two day we had gone out.. he attempted to cheat on me with a girl he knew at a pool party he wazz at... he then told my friend that nothing had happened.. but I later found out about the attept a few days later frm a friend that waz there... I wazz furious with him I then asked him about this and he admitted to it... I then ask him why he said I don't know and I droped it fearing him to brake up with me... almost 3 months later here I am miserable and longing to be loved by another person... knowing that they would treat me better...

He's 2 years older then I am... and he's the sweetest guy I've met in a loong time... but I just can't seem to bring myself to end the relationship I am currently in, although he himself had wanted to end it a few weeks ago.. stating that he wazz bored with me and our relationship because we hadn't been spending time with each other.. even though I had repeated tried to do things with him... and I've tried to call him at least once a day for the time we've been dated and he hadn't called me... but all of a sudden he started to call me again...

But this other guy... he just makes me feel so good about myself... makes my life worth while and hasn't hurt me in anyway... but I don't know if he wants to be in a relationship.. or just wants "to have fun" you I want to have fun but I want to be in a serious relationship at the same time... please help me I don't know what to do
:-/ :'(

Hey there, why can't I find a chick like you! Well I agree that you should be with sum1 that makes you happy. Everyone deserves that, I don't think the guy your currently in a relationship with actually wants a relationship. If he was serious about you, then he wouldn't of done what he's already done. He seems immature on the relationship side of things and I think you want someone who knows how to treat like the princess you are. If someone can't see what your really worth then they don't care about you. I don't think he realise's that a relationship takes 2, and you gota show your partner you have trust and faith in them when your not together. Anyway about the other guy, confront him, and talk to him, he's not a mind reader... ask him how he feels and put your cards on the table. Just be careful that you don't get taken advantage of, there's so many w a n k ers out there that are just I diots, you need to find sum1 that wants what you want.

Regards~alicka~

You can only forgive, give chances, once too many times. And you give him second chance. Fine. But he messed up again. I think you already gave him his chance to make it up to you and he showed you that he's definitely not deserving of your love. You're right. He just wants to have fun. Nothing is wrong with that but it becomes "wrong" if it is at the expense of someeone else. You CANNOT let him deceive you the way he has. Yes its hard to let go. But you have to stand up for yourself sometimes. You said there's someone else who treats you better, who obviously cares about you. So what's wrong? Why not get with him. Is it because you don't like him? Is it because you think you're in love with your current boyfriend? I think there's hesitation in getting with this other guy who you seem to think is perfect with you is because you may not be ready to move on to another relationship. You need to be happy with yourself first, before seeking happiness with another person. Wouldn't it be great that you can be independent and totally fine without having to rely on a boyfriend? I say take a break from being in a committed relationship with ANYONE and just enjoy being single, spend time with friends and family. Find yourself as clche as that sounds. Then maybe, when you do find your own happiness, then get with mr. perfect. I hope I helped. Good luck. Update me on what happens. I apologize if I misunderstood anything, so feel free to correct me if I did.

I'm sorry. I did read your entry wrong. So it's mr. perfect who seem like he just wants to have fun.

I guess my point is to be direct... let go of your current boyfriend because he cheated or what not, who is to say that he won't do it again. If you give him too many chances, he will just keep doing it. You need to put your foot down and say, you will not be taken advantaged of. Just have fun, be single. Let love come to you. Don't go searching for it or waiting around for it. It's best that you're content with yourself before you get involved with relationships. You do not need a boyfriend to be happy. Take care.

Hey there... well this is the first advice I have ever given for a relationship but based on my own thought I would suggest you to take a break, the guy broke up with you as u said, though you love him but I think its not wise enough to be with a person who once broke up with u, cheated on you and is not really interested in u. I think you must move on with your life and forget about him. Take a break from relationships for a while and take a fresh start... I hope this helps... wish you all the best anywayz and if you like this answer do let me know because its my first relationship advice... wish you all the best... take care and have lods of fun anywayz!