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mcgirl2010
Jun 3, 2010, 10:28 AM
My mother does not like my boyfriend. We had a family talk and got some things squared away about that. The last thing she said was she's done getting involved. I thought she meant with my relationship and I was quite frankly relieved. It's been two days since then. Things are completely different. My sister and father act like they always do. When I am around my mother I get the feeling she doesn't want to be around me. She has barely said two words to me and is avoiding me at all costs staying out late without the rest of the family and running errands all day long. I know her regular dynamic, she always asks me to go with her, includes me to the point of bugging me. What is with this cold shoulder from my mother?

redhed35
Jun 13, 2010, 04:39 AM
When you got things squared away,did you follow through on your part?

Ask to speak to her again,tell her how you feel and ask if she's OK,show an interest in her well being,there may well be something bothering her that you don't know about,she may not want to discuss it,however your concern and interest may help soothe your relationship.

Jake2008
Jun 13, 2010, 08:43 AM
She's laying the guilt on you, because she didn't get her way.

By ignoring you, and pretending you don't exist, she is showing her anger in a passive way, at the decision you have made to keep the relationship with your boyfriend.

You are too big to spank, or ground, or take away your nintendo, so putting you 'out there' wondering why she's doing what she's doing, is a way for her to get her point across and essentially pout, and hold a grudge.

She is making you uncomfortable because she is angry.

My advice is to ignore it. Most likely it is temporary. If she wants to act like a child who didn't get the biggest piece of cake, let her get it out of her system, and she will come around.