View Full Version : We are seeing each other but he cheated
jessicabollan
Jun 3, 2010, 08:35 AM
I am seeing this 18yr old boy. He has been broken hearted and tried to commit suicide over it. He was in depression when we first met and now he's friends say he's back to normal, and he's okay. I'm a little younger than him, 15. We share our emotions, I've met his family but one mention of me being his girlfriend, he's a scared little boy. He tells me its because of his last girlfriend of 3yrs broke his heart. I know he loves me but girls tell me he's kissed other girls, I confront him and say if its true its over between us but then he'll have a mental breakdown and has to have me back regardless and crawl back to the issue, were not going out, but I feel like I'm just hanging on for something that might not even happen. And he got drunk and cheated and I said okay I'll let it slide and give you one last chance. Am I doing the right thing? I love him so much though.
troublemakerman
Jun 3, 2010, 06:19 PM
Back off! Let him get help from doctor. Your to young to be involved with a guy who is unstable. To many guys like him make the news doing something stupid. Don't be in a hurry for a guy. Go read my poem in the section writing "poem everybody read" GOOD LUCK.
aimee_tt
Jun 3, 2010, 06:34 PM
Hes kissed other girls. He cheated on you. Hes a mess.
Why would you want to stay with him!. No matter how messed up his life is its not your fault. You didn't ask him to cheat.
You can't just forgive him like that... You need to leave him in order to let him get his life together.
You may end up finding someone better and not want him back. (im hoping you do) Or if he gets himself together and comes and finds you then HE can build your trust again.
If he tells you he will commit suicide when you leave him then tell his parents.
Being drunk is not an excuse.. Cheating is cheating.
He needs to learn from his mistakes
Jake2008
Jun 4, 2010, 02:29 PM
What you are experiencing is not love.
He is a needy boy, who throws excuses for his behaviour out there, generally indicating he is not stable enough to make it on his own if you abandon him. Feeling sorry for someone under those circumstances, is not healthy for you, or for him.
He makes bad choices- that's life. He cannot have a love relationship with you, as long as you feel sorry for him, even when he cheats. It's as though he is saying that he just can't help himself because he's so emotionally unstable. And that you should not fault him for what he's done, but instead, continue to save him from himself.
Again, that is not love.
When his needs are being met, and yours are not, that is not love either.
When he guilts you into rescuing him time and time again, and you fall for it, that is not love either. He is using you, and you are letting him.
He needs to stand on his own two feet. If he can kiss other girls, and be so convincing to others about all his emotional problems, he can certainly get his rear end into counselling to figure out how to take responsibility for his own actions, and not use others in the procress.
As long as you allow it, he will accept it. He is using you.
Find someone more worthy of your time and more equal to your giving and compassionate nature.
jpbuzzworthy
Jun 4, 2010, 02:38 PM
It's call RAPE. And he's mentally unstable. RUN
JudyKayTee
Jun 5, 2010, 06:59 AM
I don't read that anyone is having intercourse - at 15 (unfortunately) you can kiss anyone you WANT to kiss and it's not rape, statutory or other.
In fact, I'm not aware that cheating by kissing is statutory rape in any State.
Your sarcasm is unwarranted.
EDIT: Concerning your other comment - I DO have a life. I answer questions (correctly, by the way, based on my legal education and experience) on AMHD.
JudyKayTee
Jun 5, 2010, 07:37 AM
whoever is removed my posts, please go ahead and remove ALL my posts..i'm not posting anymore and don't want any part of your site.
Concerning "Whoever is removed my posts" (?) - it's a moderator - if you have a complaint, contact one of the moderators and ask why your posts are getting removed. If the removal was unfounded the posts will be reinstated.
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