I have been dating my boyfriend for 8 months, we both just celebrated our birthdays. He turned 30, I turned 27. I have a high sex drive. I want it all the time. I am divorced and I used to have sex with my husband 3 times a day for years. My currant boyfriend takes meds for bipolar and depression so he doesn't have a sex drive. I told him that this would be a problem for us. After a long talk and about 4 months of coxing, he decided to tell his dr. and got a sample of viagra to get in the mood. But the problem is that when he is in the mood he can not orgasm. Since we have been together, 8 months, he has only came once, and that was when I gave him a blow job. He says its not me, he says I'm very sexy and I am great, and I'm "Nice and tight" he likes to say. And he brags about the amazing blow jobs, but yet he can't orgasm. So of course I can see why he never wants to have sex. But it is taking an emotional toll on me! I'm lucky if we have sex once a month. What can we do? I just want him to orgasm!

Unfortunately ejaculation problems are a common side effect of antidepressants. The only possible thing you could do, and I do not necessarily recommend this, is ask his doctor about changing his medication. There are meds out there that have fewer side effects of this kind. However, if the meds he is taking now work well in controlling the bi-polar and depression, you run the risk of having to go through a trial and error period of MANY meds to find one that works for his condition but does not have ejaculatory side effects.

So, it is not you causing this, it is most likely the meds.

If he really cares about you he should be willing to do whatever it takes to please you... whether it be him performing cunniligous, or just having sex... is it that you can't have sex, or just that he doesn't ejaculate? If it is the last one, then mayb you could have sex, and after you are pleased, try giving him a blow job until he goes, or says that it's fine, and that he just can't.