I was playing with my friends when I saw a girl walk past my boyfriend and when she did she touched her in the high on purposs. :S

That's not acceptable. Even if he didn't already have a girlfriend, touching girls without their consent is assault. Touching them on the thigh could well be sexual assault. If this wasn't a one-off which will never be repeated, I'd dump him. Preferably into a big deep dark hole.

If this happened at school.. he could very well be in trouble. In our schools our kids have a no contact rule... no kissing.. hugging.. holding hands.. cuddling or touching inappropriately. Tell him this.

How old are you two?

This is very childish behavior and very inappropriate. It's time he learns some manners and to keep his hands to himself.

Looking at your other threads it seems that you have nothing but trouble with this boy. Why are you with him?

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/teens/friend-likes-boyfriend-474958.html

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/middle-school/boyfriend-looks-girls-better-way-than-me-475017.html

Because he is so cuteand I like blue eyes

Then it's that's your only requirements for a boyfriend I guess you'll have to put up with his actions.

Just tell him its inappropriate. Communication is better than all the hate. Hormones make boys and girls stop thinking. Confront, communicate, educate.

Blue eyes and cute and you put up with his actions? There are a lot of cute boys with blue eyes who are cute and they're not players... How old are you?

I'm guessing the OP is between 11 and 13 if her only requirements for a boyfriend is that he's cute and has blue eyes. :rolleyes:

I'm going to give her the benefit of the doubt and hope that when she grows up a bit and matures a bit, her requirements for a boyfriend will also mature.

So OP, he has blue eyes and he's cute, so I guess you either realize that this is a really silly reason to stay with someone, or you put up with his childish behavior until another cute blue eyed boy comes a long.

Either way, we can't help you simply because you're not willing to see past his cuteness. Complaining to us about his behavior won't help, only you have the power to walk away from this kid.

I'm going to give her the benefit of the doubt and hope that when she grows up a bit and matures a bit, her requirements for a boyfriend will also mature.

So OP, he has blue eyes and he's cute, so I guess you either realize that this is a really silly reason to stay with someone, or you put up with his childish behavior until another cute blue eyed boy comes a long.

Either way, we can't help you simply because you're not willing to see past his cuteness. Complaining to us about his behavior won't help, only you have the power to walk away from this kid.
Well said. Better than my sarcasm that is likely lost on such a young person. :)

Just tell him its inappropriate. Communication is better than all the hate. Hormones make boys and girls stop thinking. Confront, communicate, educate.



His hormones do not give him an excuse for putting his hands on a girl in a manner that is totally inappropriate. Rachel... You need to grow up up a little and look at the guy for what he is... I don't care if he looks like Brad Pitt his actions are childish and bordering on sexual harassment .

I am 11

Why do you even have a boyfriend?? Do your parents know about this?

Why are you in such a hurry to grow up? My childhood got cut short. I wish I could have stayed innocent longer than I had, but I didn't make the choice to grow up quickly. You have a choice here. Enjoy what's left of your childhood.

I don't want to be lonely because every body in my class goes out with someone and I don't want to be left out.Yes my mum does
Know.

Everyone? Really? You don't have any single friends?

What if you were the trend setter then? Being single really is a good thing at your age. You could always be the cool one in the group.

Then depending on what your "going out is" you have a poor mother who is not doing her job as a mother.
And we wonder why 12 year olds are having babies.

I don't want a baby and I don't what to set a new trend either I want to be in love with someone cute

It's okay to want someone cute. But set higher standards for yourself. Blue eyes and cute is not enough if someone behaves in a way that could get him arrested if he were a little older.

You wouldn't be posting here if you weren't worried about his behaviour. You already know what he's doing isn't right. You deserve better than him. You should have a guy that you want to boast about to everyone, not one that makes you so uneasy you are posting on the internet.

i dont want a baby and i dont wat to set a new trend either i want to be in love with someone cute


You have to treat yourself well if you expect others to. Think about how you want to be treated? Wouldn't you prefer to have a boy who likes you so much that they treat you as special as you are? If you put up with a behaviour you don't like, don't expect him to change.

There are plenty of cute boys with blue eyes who will be the kind of boyfriend you deserve. It is OK if you are on your own for awhile... don't settle for a cute boy who doesn't respect your feelings. Besides, if you are known to have a boyfriend already, you might miss the chance to meet someone who is even better... :)

Have you told him you didn't like it when he touched the other girl as she walked by? If so, what did he say? If not, why don't you tell him. If he really cares about your feelings he won't do it again. If he continues, while knowing you don't like it, that will tell you he isn't boyfriend material right now.

Personally I'd rather be with someone who makes me feel special and treats me well... even if he has green eyes!

i dont want a baby and i dont wat to set a new trend either i want to be in love with someone cute

Rachael, I hate to be the bearer of reality, but you're not in love. How do I now this, because your main criteria for being with this boy is that he's cute and has blue eyes. That's not love, it's childish silliness, which is what I expect from an 11 year old.

My son is 11, no way would I allow him to date, he's not ready, he's not mature enough (no 11 year old is) and it's just ridiculous for kids your age to have boyfriends and girlfriends. There's no logic behind it, because you aren't mature enough to be dealing with all the things that dating involves.

Now lets deal with the fact that you're dating this cute guy. I can promise you that sooner or later, probably sooner, he won't be your boyfriend any more. He'll move on, you'll move on, and hopefully you'll be single for a while so that you can grow up a bit.

You'll probably go through handfuls of cute blue eye boys before you actually fall in love, and it won't happen any time soon.

You're a child. Stop trying to be a grownup, you're not ready, no where near ready, your childish ideals are proof enough.

That's the hard reality.

So Rachel.. if all your friends start having children at twelve or thirteen are you going to have one too?

If your friends start taking drugs and burn all their brain cells to the point of being mindless zombies are you going to do that also.

I have news for you.. kids do not like another kid who goes along with the crowd.. they may act as if they do... but I can tell you this.. they despise the ones who have no mind of their own.

The boys... when they get what their after, do you think they don't brag to other guys... they do and then you become like all the others who "just wanted to do what her friends were doing"

Being different is being true to yourself. Who wants to be like everyone else? Look around you at school , notice the pretty girls who are not trying to get a boyfriend.. they study and are well liked. They're popular because they choose not to go along with all the "Barbie crowd".

You are eleven and if your mom knows this and she isn't concerned I feel sorry for you.
If she doesn't know and you're acting like this at school, then I feel sorry for her.

Grow up when it's time to grow up and when you're sixteen or eighteen you can look in the mirror
And be proud of what you see.

Leave the little perv alone... He's a loser and I hope some of the smarter kids have the guts to tell an adult about his inappropriate touching.

At the age of 11 I was hiding from boys! Them and their stupid game of catch and kiss! I thought they were SMELLY, STUPID AND DIRTY! And so did the girls around me.

Why on earth you want to date at 11 stumps me! How long have you been with this kid? A week?

How about you go out with some friends, male and female. Not as boy friend and girl friend.

He is a child still. What did you expect? For him to have eyes for you and you only? He is a child. He does not want to be tied down!

This time next year you would have had a few more boy friends and forgotten all about this boy. So the sooner you get rid of him the better

I think sixteen is an appropriate age to start dating. Something is wrong with this world when an eleven year old girl is so crazy about boys and goes along with anything to be part of the crowd.

I weep for this generation...

I think sixteen is an appropriate age to start dating. Something is wrong with this world when an eleven year old girl is so crazy about boys and goes along with anything to be part of the crowd.

I weep for this generation...

It scares me to death Kit. My son is 11. He's a great kid, a smart kid, a wonderful wonderful kid, but he's not even close to being mature enough to handle a relationship.

Yes he likes girls, one in particular in his class that he's talked about since the beginning of the year. They're friends, that's it. They don't hold hands, they don't kiss, the closest thing they've done to resemble dating is exchanging gifts at Christmas.

I met with her parents at the Christmas concert, we discussed if it was all right for them to exchange presents, and we agreed that this was okay. Neither one of them want to date, they're both too young and thankfully, in our school, 11 year olds behave like 11 year olds, they're not boy and girl crazy.

I don't have a set age where he'll be allowed to date. I think it depends on maturity and what they plan on doing on a date. If it's a group then I don't have a problem with a 14 year old going on that sort of date, but one on one, calling each other girlfriend and boyfriend, that's just not okay with me, especially not at 11.

I'm not at all old fashioned, I'm not overly protective, I just don't see any reason why an 11 year old child would date. I really wonder where these parents are and if they truly know what their kids are doing.

You know, I think I'll start a thread about this. We should probably continue a discussion about this but not on this thread. I do welcome the OP to join us in the discussion, maybe then we can all try to figure out why so many children are coming to this site with relationship problems.

I'll post the link.

If anyone is interested in discussing children dating, I've started a thread/poll.

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/other-member-discussions/should-children-date-475195.html

Perhaps you should leave this boy alone and tell someone in authority what he is doing.

If anyone is interested in discussing children dating, I've started a thread/poll.

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/other-member-discussions/should-children-date-475195.html

Alty... I cannot believe you read my mind. I was thinking today about someone starting some kind of a place for kids on this forum. A place where kids can come and talk about bullying and grades and their hopes and what they want to be when they grow up.

This world is so full of horrible wicked people and I'm sick of turning on the television every night and seeing something about a kid being bullied to the point of committing suicide or a child who is abused or murdered by a pedophile.

Some of these kids don't have any guidance at home , maybe we can give it to them here. Give them hope. I look at my children and Thank God we raised them right and they are wonderful. Think about the ones who don't have parents like you and I had.. who taught us and loved us.

Think about your kids and how much you love them and think about the kids who have never known the real security of loving parents like ours have. This eleven year old has really bothered me cause now it's the norm in school and that is sad. God I wish for the days of my youth.:(