I just cought my 11 year son masturbating and I do not know how to react. Can you help me?

Is it normal for an eleven year old boy masturbates and how many times a day?

Hello A:

Masturbation is perfectly normal for your boy. Treat it that way.

excon

Hello ex;
I understand but all the time?

hello ex;
i understand but all the time?
How should I act?

how should i act?Hello again, A:

I haven't changed my mind. Treat it like it's an ORDINARY part of growing up, which it IS. He doesn't do it ALL the time. He's just discovered it. It's NEW. He's going to do it a lot. It's perfectly NORMAL for him to DO that.

excon

It is completely normal for boys to explore there new found "friend" and habit.

I think that you should read this site concerning broaching the subject with your son:Should I be concerned if my teenage son is masturbating? (http://family.custhelp.com/cgi-bin/family.cfg/php/enduser/std_adp.php?p_faqid=937)

Are you married hon? Or is the boys father in his life at all? Perhaps the male figure in his life if he has one, could help with this?

It's a very normal part of life. And if you make a big huge deal out of it, it could hurt him in the future.

At this point, I would just turn a blind eye to it when he spends extra time in the bathroom, or quiet time in his bedroom, which ever it is that he does.

Make sure he knows it's a private thing if he is doing it in public. But if he is being private about it, there isn't anything else to be done about it.

Unless he starts stealing your lotion like my brother did. In which case, you may want to buy him his own so he won't steal yours

I thank you all for the help and no he does not have a father.Thanks Jenni and Ex.. by the way I would you drink a Koolaid anyway.Thank you guys, I feel much better, Ani.

I just cought my 11 year son masturbating and i do not know how to react. Can you help me? u should let it be boys will be boys just inbrase it and u will see u will fill much better:D

u should let it be boys will be boys just inbrase it and u will see u will fill much better:D

Please read the site terms of service, or rules. This site does not allow "textspeak". It confuses the translation program.

Not to mention it makes some members' skin crawl from the lack of effort. Like mine.

I suggest you take him to one side and tell him that whilst you know its perfectly normal for boys of his age to masturbate you hope he will do this in his own room and his own time and explain to him that its not something he should do in any public area or place not associated with his own room, You'll need to knock his bedroom door, and the bathroom door if you don't want to walk in on him, whatever you do though don't tell him its bad or wrong, this will cause many problemes in his adult relationships. Good luck, I found my own son doing this and it was very embarrassing. I used to make a lot of noise as I was approaching his bedroom or the bathroom, this let him know I wasn't far away and saved us both embarrassment.

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Kids that age will do that.
Tell him to do it in his room, if he wasn't in his room. Now that you know he's doing it, you might want to knock on his door if it is closed before you go in to his room.

Is his dad around? Maybe they should have "the talk"

u should let it be boys will be boys just inbrase it and u will see u will fill much better:D


I might take this advice - if I had a CLUE what it is.

What?

u should let it be boys will be boys just inbrase it and u will see u will fill much better:D

Read the site rules please. There is no "textspeak" allowed here. Most of us have busy lives too, but we had the time to read the terms of service. And we have time to actually use English. That is not a phone you're using. This is not a text.

Furthermore, for you to be telling the OP to "inbrase"( which I'm guessing means embrace) her child masturbating, is questionable advice.

I hope you "fill" like reading the rules.

Wow. I can't believe your making a big deal out of this. I'm 11 and I masturbate.

I guess I would also follow up with how did you "catch" him and how do you know he is doing it "all" the time.

Boys do it, I mean he should not be doing it 5 or more times a day, but yes it happens.

Also long ago, he should be getting his privacy, I know with our 9 year old, he locks the bath door, we knock before we come into his bed room and so on.

Well I sometimes do it more than 5 times a day and I am 11

HE is a boy he will do it even if you tell him to stop. So let him be he will probably find a girlfriend & bone her.

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kjhgcgcgvt, this thread is old and already resolved :) please pay attention to dates :)

And try to be a little more respectful with your answers.

A parent doesn't find solace in thinking of their child "boning" as a cure for masturbation.

What he is doing is what all boys do at that age. I started doing it when I was 8. Some friends didn't do it until well into puberty at 14 or 15. Whatever you think about it, just make sure he isn't doing something bad to himself in the process. My son got "creative" and ended up in the emergency room. Not sure who was more embarrassed: Him or me? His mom wasn't too thrilled either and was annoyed that I hadn't "talked to him sooner about this."
Try to talk to him yourself. If that doesn't work, perhaps ask a relative closer to his age who is the same gender... a cousin or close friend. You would be surprised at how he will feel once he knows he isn't alone with his "new toy." Good luck!

It is very normal I am 17 and I started around 3rd just say you can masterbate but not a lot and make shue he washes his hands after:)

it is very normal i am 17 and i started around 3rd just say you can masterbate but not a lot and make shue he washes his hands after:)


What do you consider to be "a lot" and why does he wash his hands afterward? Just askin'.

why does he wash his hands afterward? Just askin'.Hello Judy:

If those little spermies can break into a giant egg, just imagine how much damage they can do to your fingernails.

excon

You wash you hands after going potty you surly need to wash your hands after that.
Kind of nasty not to.

You wash you hands after going potty you surly need to wash your hands after that.
Kind of nasty not to.


We differ on our opinions of "nasty." I find a man (or woman) who jumps out of bed and scrubs up to be rather disconcerting. Maybe this is a different category.

Well it depends.
If you are in the bed for the night, no reason to get up and scrub.
But to walk around touching things with gooey hands after masturbating is a bit gross.

It's normal for 11 year old boys to masturbate. It is completely normal and you should let your boy do it. A 11 year old boy can masturbate for about 5 times a day. So don't worry :). It decreases the chance of having prostate cancer and heart attacks in the future by 50%. It is a natural thing. 94% of adolescent do it and 6% well... they could lie!!
Cheers!

it's normal for 11 year old boys to masturbate. It is completely normal and you should let your boy do it. A 11 year old boy can masturbate for about 5 times a day. So don't worry :). It decreases the chance of having prostate cancer and heart attacks in the future by 50%. It is a natural thing. 94% of adolescent do it and 6% well.... they could lie!!!!
Cheers!


Would you post your medical findings, the result of your research, on this?

We take pride in our answers on the medical boards, I have a quasi-medical background, and I would like to see your research.

Hello Judy:

I too heard, anecdotally, that a daily ejaculation will help prevent prostate cancer... Since then, I've been a regular practitioner of cancer prevention..

excon

You say he's 11? Well u have nothing to worry about. It's normal for the boys of that age to masturbate. I repeat PERFECTLY NORMAL. Just let him do it it's a natural thing, most of the guys of his age do it... you don't have to get worry about things such as: hairy palms, blindness, etc. those aren't true! Masturbation is 100% healthy, and you should let your boy do it! Don't make him feel guilty for that thing..
Cheers :)

You say he's 11? well u have nothing to worry about. it's normal for the boys of that age to masturbate. I repeat PERFECTLY NORMAL. Just let him do it it's a natural thing, most of the guys of his age do it... you don't have to get worry about things such as: hairy palms, blindness, etc. those aren't true! masturbation is 100% healthy, and you should let your boy do it! don't make him feel guilty for that thing..
Cheers :)


Please post the medical site where you found this info. I'm not saying you are wrong. I would simply like to know where you found masturbation to assist in good health in the ways you stated.

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Boys do it when they find out it feels nice to rub and feel the penis and end up finding out about masturbating. If I can ask did you ever feel your genitals, if the answer is yes then why are you asking if its OK for your son to do it. Babies do it when the daiper is removed and little hands find that special spot that is always covered. It called exploring, that is what your son is doing, so let him do it and tell him to do it in private. Lock the door mom and let him explore his body,, Its normal.

Hey I'm 11 and I feel a urge to but I don't know ifs its OK my mom said it will ruin your penis but I've been fighting the urge for 2 years now but I can't keep on and who should I tell?my docter I want to tell my mom or dad but I feel like they will be mad and dissapointed help me please

Can someone help me I have the urge and I'm 11 and I don't know if I will ruin my penis by doing this help please thanks

Hello hey:

It WON'T ruin you penis.. Whack away, Youngster..

excon