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So there is this guy, I met him this year. We were talking on IM, and he told me I was the prettiest girl ever, and that he likes me. I told him no, a bunch of times because I never saw him like that kind of guy. He told me that he really likes me, but I told him that I don't like him. But now I'm getting feelings for this guy, and now I'm regretting that I told him no, and I don't know what to do so, please help me! I'm open to any suggestions, if your willing to help me! Thanks.

Be honest with him and tell him that you realized that you really do like him and want to spend some time with him. It can't hurt!

How old are you please?

I would like to know how old you are too, but being honest with him, and just tell him you're not sure you know him well enough could encourage him. But I have to say, maybe you liked the attention, and only started to have feelings because you felt he would give that same attention to you.

That's something you should think about before you even give him any encouragement, as its not fair to make a guy yo yo back and forth between your feelings without a clue why you are so confused.

All you had to say was "I am not sure", or " I don't know you well enough", in the beginning.

OK so I like this guy and he told me he REALLY likes me, but he had this crush before me that I knew about but I feel like that will ruin everything in the future. I need help with this guy. He doesn't know I like him a lot but I do and I just feel like I should have told him I like him but I didn't. He's not my type at all so I don't know why I like him. He thinks he's cool and smooth but he's not! I want to know what I can do so PLEASE help me.

How old are the both of you, and does he have a girl friend? If so you need to leavehim alone.

How old are you please?

:cool: I'm not old at all trust me. I just need help with this guy because before he liked this other girl A LOT so I feel that its going to affect me and him in the future

Please explain how so??

Just talk to him. Just tell him that you've thought about it and with time you may end up liking him more and more.

Good luck!

Just talk to him. Just tell him that you've thought about it and with time you may end up liking him more and more.

Good luck!

Thank you for helping. He has this other crush and she's hard to compete with. I really reeally like him and I just feel so lost! I feel like I'm his 2nd choice. Every day I like him more and more and more! This sucks help!!

Please explain how so???

Please tell me how old you are first

This post gives a little more information than your last one.

If he thinks he's cool and smooth and he's not and he's not really your type, then I have to assume that you're not really happy with everything.

Exactly what do you like about him?

Please explain how so???

Please tell me your age. Then I will tell you mine

There is no need to keep starting different questions about the same person, that's pretty confusing, and I am probably old enough to be your grandfather, and have a 14 year old grandson, and 5 more younger than that.

Answer your question? Hope so as your age is important to give you age appropriate advice. I think your 14-16. Am I close.

This post gives a little more information than your last one.

If he thinks he's cool and smooth and he's not and he's not really your type, then I have to assume that you're not really happy with everything.

Exactly what do you like about him?

Well for me, my type is the exact opposite of perfect. I love a guy who shows a different side if himself everyday and that is what he does. He makes me feel special and I love everything about he's personality and his looks, everything about him makes me go CRAZY! He doesn't have a girlfriend but he wants me to be his girlfriend but I feel that his old crush will just ruin eveything

There is no need to keep starting different questions about the same person, thats pretty confusing, and I am probably old enough to be your grandfather, and have a 14 year old grandson, and 5 more younger than that.

Answer your question? Hope so as your age is important to give you age appropriate advice. I think your 14-16. Am I close.

Your pretty close.

If you are afraid of the competition you will never succeed.

How old are the both of you, and does he have a girl friend? If so you need to leavehim alone.

He doesn't have a girlfriend but he does have another crush

Just talk to him. Just tell him that you've thought about it and with time you may end up liking him more and more.

Good luck!

He does like me and I like him but I don't know what to do. We are good friends and we laugh at each other etc. I know things about him and he knows about me. I might tell him I like him but I don't want everybody in the school to find out.. that has happened before.

I say the best thing to do is to be straight forward with him. Admitt how you feel. What good will it do either one of you to hide it? I'm speaking as a guy, and I know that it's usually us that comes for the girls, but if you made a mistake by saying 'no', o well, you have to get over that. The thing about making mistakes like that is to never let them happen again. Next time, you'll be more aware of what is coming your way. So tell him, because if you don't, that's your loss, and his. Do the both of you a favor and be honest.

I say the best thing to do is to be straight foward with him. Admitt how you feel. What good will it do either one of you to hide it? I'm speaking as a guy, and I know that it's usually us that comes for the girls, but if you made a mistake by saying 'no', o well, you have to get over that. The thing about makeing mistakes like that is to never let them happen again. Next time, you'll be more aware of what is coming your way. So tell him, because if you don't, that's your loss, and his. Do the both of you a favor and be honest.

Thanks for the advice! But how should I tell him? In person? That's too aqward!

HeavenlySpiced disagrees : Is that relevant in any form?

Well to start with, we ask that question before giving any type of advice to someone who obviously isn't an adult, in the "relationship" section.

How about YOU reading the site rules? Talk about about something being relevant. How about that? The site rules and terms of service are quite relevant.
Reddies, or disagrees, are for factually incorrect information. This question could/should be moved to the "teen" section, as to give this poster the best chance of getting advice from their peers. How do you know that this poster isn't 11 years old?

I was wondering when someone, who obviously doesn't have the TIME, or manners, to read the site's rules before they jump in and try to change them, would give me my next undeserved reddie. Well, it's you "spicey".

I stand by my original question. It's relevant, and quite necessary.

We all have busy schedules. Please try to take time out of yours to GO BACK and read the rules.

Edit: I see now why the age is issue touched a nerve with you. You are a 14 year old child, who needs help with flirting. Why are you posting in the relationship forum trying to give advice with no personal experience? Not to mention the "law" forum.

Use your manners, and read the site rules.

I am assuming that because you didn't want to say your age, you are probably around 14 and he is a bit older and perhaps his crush as you called her is his age.
If this guy likes you he will forget about his crush. If he doesn't he will play around with you.
Give yourself some time. This too shall pass.

My mom told me to stay away from the guy I liked. She was afraid he'd rape me. He's not that kind of guy. He was about to ask me out but then I told him what my mom said. I really like him though. I get really nervous when guys ask me out. And now I don't stand a chance.
You could tell him you do like him and that that other girl is very nice (even if she isnt) then say that you wish that you could be with him. Guys like it when you are nice.
People keep saying how old are you? To you and I'm only 13, so I don't think age matters.
Hope things go better with you than they did with me.