My ex girlfriend broke up with me in February and said she wanted time apart but we can still be friends hang out, talk etc, over those months of being on time apart we argued because I found myself still playing the boyfriend roll while working hard to fix things and she getting everything from me and I got nothing in return as far as effort from her side. One day while talking she tells me that she tells our problems to her best friend who I don’t like, and I told her that I couldn’t trust her because she tells our business to other people or whatever problems she has with me instead of talking to me about them she tells her friend. She tells me that I need to go home and think about what it is that I really want and I told her that even not being together I knew what I wanted and that was to be with her and I told her that if I didn’t care for her or the relationship then I wouldn’t have been saving money for a ring to propose to her. She then tells me that we need to distance ourselves from one another because she’s so stressed and tired and that she had enough. I walked away and she text me the next 3 days and we talked short conversations but nothing about the relationship. I waited 2 weeks and text her that I wanted to work things out and she totally shut me down saying she doesn’t want to talk about the situation and she is done talking, I couldn't reason with her. So for 6 weeks I left her alone, she hasn’t seen me or heard from me until last week I was driving down the street and we drove pass each other, 30 minutes latter I get a text where she is asking me about where I got my bed from but I never respond to the text. 2 years together I was good to this girl I really went above and beyond for her I was always there no matter what, now I’m nothing to her, she says that she loves me but want nothing to do with me.:mad:

She has demoted you to friend zone, and that's all there is to that, so stop chasing, and hoping, when she contacts you.

Ignore here, and cut all contact with her, so you can get over the disappointment, and hurt of wanting to be with someone who, doesn't want to be with you.

Its tough now, but better in the long run, FOR YOUR PEACE OF MIND.

1. [she] said she wanted time apart
2. she tells our problems to her best friend who I don’t like
3. I told her that I couldn’t trust her
4. She tells me that I need to go home and think about what it is that I really want
5. She then tells me that we need to distance ourselves from one another
6. she’s so stressed and tired and that she had enough
7. she totally shut me down saying she doesn’t want to talk about the situation and she is done talking
8. I couldn't reason with her
9. she says that she loves me but want nothing to do with me

Now, what is your question??

She has demoted you to friend zone, and thats all there is to that, so stop chasing, and hoping, when she contacts you.

Ignore here, and cut all contact with her, so you can get over the disappointment, and hurt of wanting to be with someone who, doesn't want to be with you.

Its tough now, but better in the long run, FOR YOUR PEACE OF MIND.

Thanks for your advice:D

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Yesterday I was on my way out the front door when a text came through and it said “I want to know how you can act like I don't exist”. Now my ex-girlfriend tells me to distance myself from her, leave her alone, and when I came to her to work things out she tells me that she is done talking to me. So I gave her what she wanted and left her alone like she asked. How can she get upset and angry at me for not talking to her when she put herself in this situation by telling me to leave her alone? I never did answer the text because I don't know if its worth explaining to her something that she asked to have happen to her. The last time I saw or talked to this girl was April 4th, 2010, that's almost 3 months of no contact.

After that long you would think that nothing still existed. I think she wanted to see how much you cared and to see if you would be persistent on getting her back then. You did not and she is upset about it.

Probably PMS...

I wouldn't put a whole lot of thought into it. Who has time for mind games like this? You did what she asked. I would just continue no contact.

Keep ignoring her, she's creating unneeded headaches and drama. You have already done 3 months, just continue she will give up soon.

Your doing the right thing. Move on and forget about her!

Keep ignoring her, she's creating unneeded headaches and drama. You have already done 3 months, just continue she will give up soon.


Your doing the right thing. move on and forget about her!

Now she sends me a text talking about "I hope a some point we can talk and be friends like I intended".

Seems its true what they say Women you can't live without them and you can't live with them.

Send a text back saying "LEAVE ME ALONE".

Ignore her, and keep doing your thing, she can stay upset for all you care, but I think she will take the hint.

IGNORE HER.. Block her from everything!