All right so here is my story...

I met this girl about 3 weeks ago and was like, hey, I like her. We started to talk for about a week, had a lot of things in common, then it developed into a relationship. We said that we would decided to get to know each other more through a relationship since we both liked each other enough to be in one.

Thing is, about 3 days after that, we broke up and she said she still loves her ex since he is the one she gave her virginity to. The thing is, he lives about 100 miles away from her in a different state and they have been broken up for a year now. She didn’t know whether to choose him or me since she loved him and would never see him or since she liked me and would get to see me a lot. Her final decision was to stay single and see how me and her got along after awhile.

About 5 days after we broke up, she came over to my house for the first time and we just hung out. Didn’t really do anything but she apparently enjoyed herself a lot. Later that night when she went home she texted me and said she wants to be my girlfriend again. I was like are you sure you got to know me enough? She said I think so yes. We were back together.

Things progressed even more and today I got a little mad at her. She never seems to want to talk to me much and talks to her friends a lot more than me. She says that’s because she knows her friends better than me. We broke up again today... I guess I expected a little too much from her too early on.

My question is, what should I do at this point? Should I be friends with her for a longer period and get to know her? I really started to like her because we had a lot in common, but I'm afraid ill lose my chance with her because she might try and get back with her ex now that we are broken up again. What should I do?

I would move on & find someone else. She obviously has no idea what she wants, & I personally think that she used the whole "Oh I love my ex even though we've been broken up a year" because she knew it wouldn't "hurt" you as much, & you'd be more "understanding," and not mad at her.

Just walk away. She doesn't like you enough to want to work at it, so find someone who is. If you keep chasing her, this whole break-up-get-together cycle is going to continue for a long, long time.

It sounds to me like she has no idea what she wants at this point. 3 weeks isn't long at all. You've hardly invested any time here if you look at it. I'm with Torrid, walk away.

Should I just try and be friends with her throughout the summer and see where things are by fall?

Personally, I wouldn't. That's up to you, but how many times would you want to get back together and break up?

Well the reason we keep doing that is b\c we really don't understand each other this early on to have a well established relationship. Were trying to rush something without a foundation.

So, I guess we could still be friends throughout summer and see where we end up later on once we've gotten to know each other a bit more.

You both are trying to replace what you had without the proper time to heal and get healthy.

Its called a rebound. Neither of you is ready for a healthy relationship at this time, and the harder you try, the worse it gets.

Have the sense to leave each other alone, so you can at least cope with past failures, and unpack old baggage.

Without taking enough time to heal you are useless in a relationship.

Break it off and heal before starting anything else.