Help. My boyfriend and I only have sex once or twice a month, if that. When we do have sex he pulls out even though I am on birth control. The sex also does not last very long and leaves me quite unsatisfied. He works long hours but we see each other very often. I sleep over at his apartment almost everyday. I love him and I feel very weird about this.

Have you tried talking to him about this? If so, what does he say?

No, I haven't. I am nervous to talk about it but at the same time I want him to want to have sex, not me telling him too.

You really need to talk to him about it. You can discuss it without hurting his feelings.

Good relationships have open discussions on everything.

The basics have already been said, you just need to work up the courage to actually ask your guy what his problem is. Could it possibly be that he is unsure of his "skills" in bed? You won't really have a clue until you ask him though, if he is having performance issues then there's really only one thing that will get rid of that, understanding and lots of sex :0

But like everyone and myself have already said, you need to be more open with your guy. Plus we can't really advise you any further without knowing what's truly wrong.

Also have you even tried to engage him more in the bedroom? If your sleeping at his pad that should give you ample opportunity to try to "get him in the mood" Nonetheless talk, and touch more, you'll get to the bottom of it.

How can you have sex with someone and not be able to talk about it??