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amireallybad
May 22, 2010, 09:27 PM
Okay I'm only 16 years old. As you all may know I'm not perfect, no one is. I have 4 siblings 5 with me. But somehow I still manage to be the only on in my mum's eyes who is bad. At first she told me I was her "dream child" good grades, listened, didn't go out. I recently made new friends she tries so much to keep me from them. Especially now that I'm dating one of their cousins.Its gotten worse. She's been so controlive. She would take my phone away. I can't even step outside! I get yelled at. I'm the only one who does chores. Calls me names like fat, stupid, worthless, a bit*h, slut. She threatens to call the cops on me, and my friends mom for sitting outside. She says I'm the only kid that stresses her out! When now I barely get in her way. I tried to get help but the people never get back to me.. I lost all hope, what should I do?

Alty
May 22, 2010, 09:33 PM
There are always two sides to every story, and I'm wondering what your mother would tell us if she posted here.

If it's as bad as you say then you need help. What about your father, is he around, does he see what's going on? Are you the oldest sibling? If not, can you ask the oldest for help, or an Aunt or Uncle?

Have you talked to your school counselor or a teacher you trust? Who did you call, CPS?

You have a few options, so make use of them. If it's as bad as you say it is then you need to get out. If you don't have any family that can take you in they'll likely put you in foster care until you're an adult. As long as you're away from the abuse, that's all that matters.

Good luck.

Kitkat22
May 22, 2010, 10:03 PM
What kind of friends are these new ones you are hanging out with?

If their a bad influence then your mom is trying to protect you.

amireallybad
May 22, 2010, 10:31 PM
They are great friends, mostly like the sisters I want mine to be like..
The only thing is they are on "Welfare" the ex husband of their mum practically beat her to death.
My mum is a little upset that my 18 year old friends boyfriend lives with her and has for roughly 3 years.
I am not going to make that mistake. My boyfriend is afraid of my mum. Doesn't want to be around her afraid she will beat me in front of him. He has heard her tell me many bad things and doesn't want them to get worse.

amireallybad
May 22, 2010, 10:34 PM
My mum also told me a "wab" isn't the guy for me. I had 3 previous boyfriends. [all white] and they hurt me.
So I decided to give someone else a chance at my heart. He hasn't hurt me at all. Not once.
My mum doesn't want me to make the same mistake she did and that was 'marry a mexican'

Alty
May 22, 2010, 10:39 PM
So these friends are on welfare, the ex husband practically beat the mum to death, your friend lives with her boyfriend and has since she was 15, and you wonder why your mother is upset that you're hanging out with these people?

I'm a mom. I wouldn't let you hang out with these friends and that's just based on what you said about them.

Sounds to me like your mom is doing the best she can to keep you safe. Also, has she ever beat you? If so, what do you consider beating?

If all that you're saying is true, if your mother is abusing you, then you need to report her. You and your siblings will be put in foster care until you're all old enough to fend for yourselves and your mother will most likely go to jail where a child abuser belongs.

If your boyfriend really loves you and sees that you're being abused then it's his duty to report this if you won't.

If your mother is simply worried because of the kind of people you're hanging out with, and she's not making it easy on you to continue making bad choices, well that's not child abuse, that's parenting.

So which is it? Only you know. Like I said before, we're only getting your side of the story, so of course you're going to make it sound like you're the good one and your mom isn't. So be honest with yourself and with us. Are you really being abused?

Kitkat22
May 22, 2010, 10:47 PM
I would never want my children with the "wrong crowd". It doesn't say much for the mother of your friend letting her 15 year old live with a guy in her house.

As Alty stated and she is right on the mark.. we haven't heard all the story. A mother, who is any kind of mother is going to fight like a momma bear to protect her child.

I really don't blame her. Remember, "You're judged by the company you keep".