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danielle1981
Dec 6, 2006, 07:58 PM
good evening, all! i am new to this forum, so be nice!

i am 9 months (36 weeks) pregnant, and recently broke up with the baby's father, "jack". in my opinion he is a selfish a$$hole who doesn't think about anyone besides himself, and it took me about two years to figure this out. guess i'm a little slow... ;) anyways, so i have a strong suspicion that since we broke up, he's been hanging out with the wrong crowd. these people drink way too much and do a lot of drugs. of course, I do not want the baby to be around that kind of environment. who knows that kind of people jack will bring to his apartment, if he gets involved with drugs again? we both have smoked pot in the past, but when i found out i was pregnant, i quit immediately, and haven't touched it (or alcohol, or ciggs) since. before we broke up however, he told me over and over that he wants to smoke pot again.

today he "informed" me that he has a lawyer. i am assuming to fight for custody if i go through with not letting him see that baby.

i have all his drug paraphernalia, two police reports against him for domestic violence (another story, i did not press charges, but filed reports, just to document it), his bank account info, ss#, and other things. on the other hand, i got a dui over two years ago, and have filed for chapter 7 bankruptcy in the past.

how much power does he really have? how much power do i have? could he use the dui and bankruptcy against me? i am financially stable now, and have completed all my dui classes, and got my license back.

we were never married, so i am not sure what to do. if he stays sober i would love for him to be involved in our baby's life. and i am definitely going to need child support from him regardless.

what do i do? help! :eek:

- d.

SingleMom7105
Feb 3, 2007, 11:08 PM
Calm down, you don't have anything to worry about. He has reports like that on his record he won't be able to take the baby. You don't have anything that says you are incapable of taking care of the baby. He would have to prove you an unfit mother to get custody and he can't do that with what's on his record.