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H410M45T3R
May 16, 2010, 04:19 PM
Hi there, well I'm here for some help regarding a girl I like who recently got in relationship with another guy. See, I've known this girl for about 3 years, and I've liked her since the day I met her. I also know she's been single for as long as I can remember until now. We aren't really the closest friends, just ordinary friends... I've also noticed she is MUCH more friendlier to me than most girls, but I can't guarantee she isn't just friendly to people in general. I find this girl reaaaalllyyyy attractive, and I don't like her just cause of that, I have deeper undescribable feelings for her. The exact moment I found out that she got in a relationship, I felt like I died inside... 3 years it's been and I have been too nervous to tell her my feelings... and the fact that I am a neglectful person isn't helping. I don't even know who the guy is, but he is a lucky person. The way I am feeling right now consists of regretfulness, guiltiness and jealousy, I don't know what to do now... I'd appreciate any suggestions and opinions, thanks. ;)

talaniman
May 16, 2010, 05:55 PM
I don't know how old you are but not talking to her and at least trying to get to know her has cost you. Of course there is disappointment and jealousy, your human. Its okay to have those feelings, but just don't act out on them, or let yourself get carried away or consumed by them. Shrug your shoulders, and enjoy your friends, and keep doing the things you enjoy, and the feelings will be less, and less intense, until they are gone.

H410M45T3R
May 16, 2010, 06:21 PM
I'm 16 years old, attending High school in Grade 11. And I know I should have talked to her more, but my nervousness prevented me, I've really never been good with girls you know. I know lots of other girls that I like, but only physically attractive, some have boyfriends and some don't and it doesn't affect me at all. It's this particular girl that I REALLY like... I've seen single for waaay to long now :/

Jake2008
May 16, 2010, 06:35 PM
It looks like you missed the bus on this one.

It's a shame because both of you were obviously ready for a relationship, but neither one took the chance on letting the other know.

Maybe this experience will boost yourself esteem a little bit, in that next time around, you won't be too reserved, and will just ask a girl out that you like.

Jlesnik33
May 16, 2010, 07:01 PM
Lesson learned- don't wait around being scared to act on something, because you might just miss out. Just go for it, shy or not.

But as of right now, it's a lost cause.

But it doesn't mean you can't be her friend. You guys are still very young, relationships will come and go.

And one day you'll realize you will have feelings like that again towards someone else.

I wish
May 17, 2010, 08:30 AM
Check out this guideline, it might give you some tips: https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/dating/guidlines-what-do-do-if-person-like-already-relationship-463250.html

You've had 3 years to make a move, but you were too shy, as you've admitted. The other guy was able to tell her how he feels, you should too.

Unfortunately, this is one of those situation where you can learn from experience.