Hey guys

So there's this guy who out of the blue sort of asked me out last year.
I said no cause I was taken a back but really regret it now.
Im shy . And sometimes believe "oh this is a joke", cause Im on the defense as Ive been messed about before.
Every time he's sees me he goes pure red and my mam keeps asking what did I do lol .
Recently, was online and he asked me "meet up?" and I said I was busy. He didn't bother after, just logged off.
Im not sure about him. Cause if he liked me wouldn't he start trying to get to know me? I want him to ask me out properly. I don't know why I rejected him twice .I really like the guy. But I'm kind of stunned he's possibly into me What should I do?

You sound very young, and so afraid to take a chance. But you have rejected him twice now so either get over the fear, and shyness, and talk to the guy, or leave him alone.

How old are you both??

I'm 19 he's 17.. I'm afraid because I've had such a bad experience with guys and don't want to put myself out there just to be hurt again

If you have any interest in him at all, it's time to shake off the fear and go fot it.

You may have already rejected him to the point that he won't ever ask you out again, I don't know. But if you really decide to give it a try, you could send him a message and ask him to meet up with you.

But I'm worried because he doesn't know me. Don't guys who have real interest try to be friends with you ? He doesn't even say hi to me when I see him

I think he sounds shy and unsure of himself.

It just may be torture for him to directly speak to you, especially since you are not reciprocating at all.

If you don't allow him some leeway, how will you know what type of person he is. Why presume he's like other guys and put up a brick wall.

You may very well find out he's not at all like the others- why not give him a chance.

If he does muster up the courage to ask you to hang out, try not to reject him outright, but just go and see what happens on a harmless date.

He may very well be a great person. If nothing else, you may just gain a great friend.

But you have to try too.

Yeah.
God, why do I want to believe the worst? But why does he like me, its not like he's short of girls..

You know, I think you could benefit from not getting so carried by your own personal fears, and relax, and start to take things a bit slower. Neither of you knows each other, and he may be shy, and somewhat intimidated by you, just because your older.

Regardless, you can't keep telling someone no, without at least explaining why, or rejection will run him off. You have to at least be able to talk or what's the point? Then you can know each other. So instead of a "NO", maybe a bit of conversation, and a compromise may be a better route to take in the future.

Something like " sounds interesting, can we talk about it?".

Im quite a shy person as well but if it was me I def go for it!

You obviosly like him and he obviously likes you so just cut the crap and go for it... Simple as :)

:) yeah, but what would I say? "oh about that....?" how would I approach him?